We all know that life is a series of hurdles and rewards.
As you become more successful in your own life, you will experience a never ending cycle of hurdles - and rewards.
This reflects the living of a successful life. One of being being truly lived.
Hurdles, - obstacles- will always be present as you grow as a person, and so will the rewards of overcoming the adversity that life throws at you.
Only you can choose what you allow into your sphere, and into your life.
And the engine, the mechanism, that decides what you allow in - are your own thoughts - and only your own thoughts.
Your own 'self' perception shapes those thoughts, both for good - and bad outcomes.
Your own perception of 'the self', is the one thing that shapes your life experiences.
Only YOU can see the hurdles that stand in your way.
These come from a lack of faith in your own abilities, and in trusting yourself.
Think with your heart, and not your head.
This does not mean let emotions control your decisions, far from it.
This means listening to your higher, instinctual intelligence, and confirm it with the your intellect.
Conducting this thought process the other way around, will only lead to lots of false positives, and sow self doubt in your own decision making talents.
Think first with your heart, and confirm with your head.
This will build self confidence and trust in yourself - andyour own decision making ability – overtime.
We have been taught by our education system to think with your head first.(we can see all around us how well that works out)
You have to _re-trai_n your system of thought processes, and this does not just happen overnight...
Once you see the positive effects of this change, the conviction of your own decisions will accelerate, in leaps and bounds.
Hurdles you perceived before, will melt away...
A spiritual calmness will also grow within as your self confidence will grows - THIS is the real you.
Strategies of cheating, lying, deceiving will no longer be the 'go to' tools to achieve your aims. You will start to see them as the weak, fear driven tools that they are.
They will only hold you back in fact, and serve only to chip away at the self confidence you have within you.
No matter you current phase in your life, if you believe in yourself you will find a positive aspect to take from it.
May be not today, but in hindsight.
That comes from faith in yourself today, knowing you are making the right decisions – for you.
Learning the tools of self confidence.
1/Be happy with you, whoever you are. There is only one of you, and you are unique.
2/ Accept everything about you as you are, right now. Your strengths, and weaknesses. Your focused ambitions, as well as your limitations.
3/ Allow yourself to breath in your new world. Failure's are learning experiences, and to be treasured. Without failures, successful endevours will never happen. Lose the fear, and gain the trust in yourself.
4/ Taking responsibility.
You are your own authority. No one is your master. Be true to yourself, and committed to your decisions. Be aware of your feelings, when making decisions. This is your heart talking to you. Listen.
Learn from mistaken choices. Looking back in hindsight but not in a state of regret - regretting serves no one.
Looking back in hindsight and learning from an experience, serves yourself very well.
5/ Seek approval of no one.
Except yourself.
Worrying about how other's perceive you is a monumental disservice to yourself, and your own happiness.
Attempting to live by an other's approval will only crush your own self confidence and eventually lead to a suffocation of your soul.
Be freed of your own prison, a prison of self created self doubt.
The bars of doubt in this prison, only exist in your own reality.
