Men are much more visual and are more easily seen as nasty pervs if they speak about sex

I'm not sure about that.
When it comes to steemit, I think the posts are made more just looking for up votes and making money, rather than interested in the subject of sex.

A pair of tits screen shotted from the internet is much less effort than writing.

My partner is as visual as most guys (porn etc - which I like to, don't get me wrong), but like he says - porn is the icing - a sugar rush - , but reading erotica is the whole cake. ..

(Porn is easier than reading though , especially if you are drunk and partying! lol.)

Maybe we should make a tag where only written erotica/ chat about sex, is allowed? ( I don't know how that would work here ,though...)