Earlier today, I was talking to a friend I haven't met in a while. We remembered how he was hated on and trashed talked about for openly being a dick.
And it was constant. Every day there will be gossip about how much of an asshole he is and I'll hear about it. Cause as his friend, the others expected me to do something. Make things right in a sense.
But the thing is, for all the flaws people see in him, he has his good as well. And for all the people saying how awful of a person he was, they have their bad as well. It's easy ganging up on someone and criticizing his character and beliefs. It's difficult to look at yourself and point out your own flaws for improvement.
Which he does - the dick I mean. In the group's defence, he was truly a dick hahaha. There's really no denying that but he is self-aware. Besides, why focus on others so much as to try and change them when you should be changing yourself too. We aren't saints by any measure so shouldn't we work on themselves too?
For additional context, this was back in the army and everyone in that group are my friends as well. The only differences being they weren't friends with the dick and both I and the dick were commanders. So it wasn't as if they were in any proper position to approach him.
Of course, I did tell him many times and even told him off on occasions about his atrocious behaviours. How inappropriate he can be at times. He did change a little but apparently not enough for the group. Which I feel is a bit unfair.
At the end of the day, everyone is just out there looking out for their own self-interest I feel. In this particular scenario. They all want to get the most value out of a given situation. A given relationship. A given exchange. I say everyone was a dick. It's just that they formed a group and had more power.
Pretty much we should all just look at ourselves once in a while. Doubt ourselves. Question our beliefs. Don't be a dick. Title should totally have been don't be a dick.