This is for everybody missing someone right now
Why should we consider missing someone as a bad thing? Why should it imply negative feelings or sensations? Why look at it like that when one can turn it around?
Sometimes I think about how nobody teaches us how to love ourselves, hence, others; not in school and sometines not in families either.
Missing someone is similar; we can learn to not let it hurt. Although I swear I'm the first to not resist crying when I feel so deeply, and that is good too.
But crying and hurting all the time can be exhausting.
Keep reading if you're curious to know how we can make missing someone a pleasant experience; a learning experience; a growing experience. (Either if you miss someone who lives far away or someone you lost, I thope this helps)
1.If you miss someone, it means you've lived something special. You've got to know someone who makes you feel, who lights a flame in you, that maybe loves or loved you and you loved back.
You have someone WORTH MISSING. How GREAT is that? You can consider yourself lucky, as some people never live such a thing. Maybe a real thing. It will make a nice memory to keep, won't it?
2.If you like writing, missing someone sometimes can be the best thing for it...you can have inspiration.
A sort of silver lining, it is. Missing someone can get deep in you and hurt and change you. Writing the FUCK out of you can be liberating. Writing the memories, describing, remembering, and letting it rest outside of your mind. Like getting it out but not forgetting it, as it is written forever.
Even maybe write down to your missed person. They might be missing you as much, and wouldn't you like to know?...
3.Goals. Goals. Goals. Set a hell lot of goals.
Focus on long-term goals and time will pass faster; set a countdown for when you'll be able to see the person you miss. Distance is nothing when something is WORTH WAITING. Achieve goals and you'll feel progressively good with yourself, step by step, and congrulate the person who is away in his/her accomplishments too!
4.Miss and "diss".
Yes, sometimes you miss someone but it's not the case as the other sections. Sometimes you miss someone or rather you miss what you did when he or she was still there.
Can be a friend, someone closer, a brother. But sometimes life happens and people change or circumstances.
Missing must be felt. Then, maybe set goals for you; new places to go, new people to meet. And it'll just go away, as the years pass by... Do not hold into regret or resentment.
You LEARNT a lot from the experience... LOSS. You wouldn't be as STRONG as you are now if you hadn't suffered it.
Depending on the case, it can even be GOOD for you; some relationships aren't meant to be, some are TOXIC, some develop as fake... The sooner you notice the better; but I reckon at times tiny aspects can be missed, you just have to see the good that's to come.
I maybe forgot something but it is a difficult issue to approach. I tried to make it succint. Easy.
The key: feel but also learn to process in a way that benefits yourself.