BECAUSE MANY COUPLES OFTEN DO NOT ENTER INTIMACY

BECAUSE MANY COUPLES OFTEN DO NOT ENTER INTIMACY

Without a doubt, the most important quality in a marriage is intimacy.

Many couples enter marriage without actually knowing among if. Of course, they have shared the stories of their lives, goals for the future, how many children want. However, may not be aware of the deep currents that guide them, motivations, fears and joys that are part of the emotional foundation of the companion. It is also important for the union. If we compare its relations with an elevator, we could say that they have come down to the first floor, in many cases dozens of couples who stayed married were for different reasons. Some did it for the sake of the children, other physical company; a few because she is genuinely enjoyed each other, I think that only a small minority of couples experienced true intimacy. Why is privacy so difficult to achieve in relationships between men and women?

First, it is not a skill that most families instill their children during the years of development. Life is lived so fast that there is much chance of sitting long hours to intimidate each other. Most of the individuals do not have the time to really discover what is happening within them, much less to share with other people.

Increased average of divorces also impacts privacy in great shape. The reality that a majority percentage of children is related to divorce at some point in their lives, either their parents or themselves. When a family breaks, lack of intimacy may very well be one of the causes, and is almost always a consequence.

Second, our society is relatively blind to the importance of intimacy; There are very few reward or affirmation for those who mastered this art. In our society it is better paid good good production, has higher prestige if they are educated and receive greater value if they look good. But people who manage to communicate intimately with each other will give them very little recognition.

Third, privacy requires a careful exploration of the inner world of one's own, and is very fearful for certain people. In many relationships, there has been a lack of attention to the true inner self, making privacy something virtually impossible.

How can two people share their most intimate emotions when they have rejected with great fear to look within themselves?

They may not. As a result, couples often make up relations surface, not allowing in this way the true union, being vulnerable to the relatively mild storms that come in its wake.