Realness. What a fucking attractive quality to have.
Excuse my words. But don't you think?!
A friend just sent me this interview with Jennifer Lawrence. Powerful. That's the only word I have. For her realness. Honesty. Claiming to speak her truth.
Credit: Photographed by Norman Jean Roy, Vogue, September 2012
I remember watching an interview with her. Saying that she had promised to herself to say things out loud what no one else dares to say. Isn't this the bravest thing to do?
That's what an actor gets trained in.
Anyone who says acting is pretending is saying bullshit. It's about being in the scene with your whole soul. With everything you are. Comitting fully. And letting your feelings shine through. Not holding back anymore and covering up. As you do in your normal life.
It's fucking freeing.
Excuse my words again. After reading this article I feel a bit like Jennifer. Haha. That's what I got trained in. Absorbing characters by reading their words.
I had a problem with being real.
Back to being real. I had a big problem with being real. I thought I had to be loved by everyone around me. So what did I do? I shut my mouth. I didn't want to run the risk that no one likes me. I was scared. So I just stayed quiet. Even though I was yearning for the attention, for the love.
My whole dream would crumble.
Yesterday I had a realization about fears. You might have heard people saying: "Go for your fears. Fail big, fast and forward. That's where you find success and fulfilment." It clicked.
When I went for my first acting class, I was on the phone with my mom. And suddenly I started crying. The pressure of failing at the class was immense. What if I wasn't good at acting? My whole dream would crumble.
That's why I started with acting so late.
Because I was so fucking scared. Excuse my ... Yeah, you know already. But what I was deeply wishing for, was to be in the spotlight. Was to get all the attention. All the applause. Of course, I wanted that. That's why I was so scared of not getting it.
I always thought I didn't want to be in the spotlight.
Because I didn't like it. Bullshit. I wanted it so much and to succeed in it that the stakes were so high. And I was just conditioned to be thinking negatively. I will fail if I do it. And I probably would have. As the mind is so strong. Whatever you expect, it will happen. At least most of the time.
I can't be more grateful for my mom saying "just do it". It changed my life.
Fears are great indicators for what you actually want to do.
If it didn't have that much meaning to you, you wouldn't feel nervous or scared about it.
And going back to Jennifer.
Even though she has really high stakes. Losing her reputation as an actress. As a women's idol. As someone the world looks at every day. She is speaking her truth.
Powerful.
Thanks for reading.
Jennifer Lawrence's article: https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2018/02/jennifer-lawrence-cover-story?mbid=synd_digg&utm_source=digg&utm_medium=email