How does your faith or religion comfort you? Does it help you see the truth? Does it give you guidance in times of hardship? What are the consequences to breaking a rule in your faith? Are the rules tools to bring better self-awareness? Or are the rules of your faith just rules which you are supposed to follow because someone says you should?
I really don't like the word "should." To me most shoulds are unsupported (self?) righteousness. Explain to me WHY you think the way you do. Give me REASON, and then I'll share with you my ways and reasons...then we can have a dialogue. ✌🏾THEN maybe we can learn something from each other. Don't just "should" all over me supporting such shoulds with, "because some leader or some book told me so."
Sorry for my ranting, but today was just… weird. I had a lunch with a sweet friend. It's never been really a close friendship between us, because she is friendly and helpful, but delusional. For eight years I've heard her do nothing but complain and moan, often in front of her daughters, about her husband, their father. She has been unhappy, discontent, resentful, ungrateful, etc. I don't see it as my place to tell her how I see her. I just try and listen, maintain neutral face, and shuttle her out of my kitchen as soon as possible.
Well today she lets me know that her marriage is heading towards divorce. I am sad for her stress and how traumatic this must be to her normal and for her daughters, but there's no hope of happiness in their present situation. I cannot help but be glad for whatever is to come next because their status quo is misery for everyone.
Oh, and I learned that part of the big drama is that my friend found out her husband has been secretly masturbating for 20 years! Using PORN!!! 😱
I told her I love porn and that I have no problem with masturbation, only with the fact that he hid all of that from her. She is still a little irate over this "indiscretion." She has no desire for him. She stayed with him for 20 years because you're supposed to when you take that vow in marriage, "for the children", and because he paid her bills for the last 20 years. I guarantee you she was never very open to his sexual advances. He's human, he has needs… What else was he supposed to do? What the hell has SHE been doing for her own sexual wellness if she wasn't sleeping with him and she wasn't masturbating… ? 🤔
Orgasm, in my opinion, is required for mental and physical well-being. At least it is for me...daily practice is best for me. Our bodies are like airplanes or automobiles. If they sit long unused they break down and shit festers.
My friend's religion preaches that masturbation is wrong in all situations. So she is claiming that he had an affair against her, with himself.
Jesus 'Effing Christ 🙄
Thank you for reading. I just needed to vent and get all of that off craziness off of my chest and out of my head.