So my friend here Hive account@acesontop had a post that mentioned “what’s up with censoring just the nipples on females and leaving the rest of the breasts exposed?” You can see his original post here (sorry idk how to do the link. Check out his stream and see “half taped, half naked 4-5 posts back). I commented there, but I wanted to share my thoughts here too.

Oh boy. This issue...I can literally feel my heart beat harder and my blood pressure rise when he mentioned this scenario. I’m not very detached on this topic. It’s triggering for me

Most women try to approach the female nipple censoring topic with an argument to de-sexualize it. As in, “it’s just a nipple. Can’t you guys just see it as a neutral part of my body?! I breast feed my child with this sacred object, so stop being a perv and getting aroused by it. It’s only a big deal because you guys ruin everything by making everything about sex. Hmmmph! 🤬”

Female breasts/nipples are at the pokey epicenter of a conflict we have with female sexuality. The breast is both a super common sexual arousal trigger AND one of major symbols of motherhood via nursing. Presently, culturally, we don’t like to mix up our sex and mothering. It generally makes us uncomfortable. We try and keep those 2 things as far apart from each other as possible and never let the 2 aspects collide. How can we maintain our unsullied holy mother image if we tolerate others bringing up the inherent beauty and sexuality of our breasts?! How dare they! Men don’t have this mother/whore archetypal conflict to deal with. They are generally harassed and shamed for always wanting sex, but they don’t have the conflict about it like women do.

The vilification of sex is the root issue. Nothing is ultimately good or bad. Only our resistance to what IS causes good vs bad and then the trouble really starts. And sex just IS a part of life. A big part! Yet so many people want to deny this, or repackage it, and resist. Our desire for sex is as hardwired into our biology as our desire food, shelter, and water. We don’t survive as a species unless we are all a little fixated with sex.

But sex is the elephant in the room. it’s the big, obvious, awkward thing smack dab in the middle of everything that NO ONE wants to acknowledge or discuss. And so there it stays uncomfortably, awkwardly, contentiously, our motives and desires around the topic of sex unexamined, unexpressed because we can’t bring ourselves to be the first one in this theoretical room to be honest about our interest in it.

There is every kind of kink/turn on out there that you can imagine. But Men’s nipples aren’t as common of an arousal trigger as women’s nipples and breasts, so that’s partially why this isn’t an issue with male nipples…plus the maternal/sexual conflict with the female breast. And the irony is that it’s really the rounded female breast WITH the nipple that is generally the big turn on. (think about it...fewer folks seek totally flat chested women. We augment our selves all the time to have fuller more voluptuous breasts. But we rarely seek to change our nipples.) What if they did the partial censoring by covering the roundness but left the nipples peaking out? Nipples are the universal element that both men and women have. That would make much more logical sense to sensor the breast tissue vs the common nipple, but I admit I think I would find that more arousing!

I digress…

I’m a mother, I love sex and I am not a bit ashamed of that, and I’m bisexual so I can truly see the beauty of the female breast from the mother perspective and sexually, so I have a lot of involvement in this topic. I would like to be able to more clearly and succinctly express myself here, but thanks for reading and letting me at least practice speaking my mind on a powerful topic for me.

Lady Nips