The triggers are the guides
The triggers are the guides...

Okay I have to say something

I’m getting triggered lots lately everywhere I turn. About many things actually, but one of them is the vilification of sex and expressing sensuality.

For me:
nudity is not bad or wrong + sex is not bad or wrong = nudity with the intention of being sexual is not wrong

I’m not saying every time I take off my tank top and practice yoga in booty shorts I’m trying to turn you on. But what if I was? (Hypothetical) I don’t see that as pathological unless my need of sexual attention was impeding others, my relationships or my quality of life.

Sexuality is a form of expression for me. It’s is a part of me that I will no longer hide. Not holding back the full expression of me is fucking therapy after a life of nipping and tucking parts deemed shameful.

So...there.

Maybe I’m not trying to be sexy ALL the time, but sex and embracing my inherent sensual nature is very special to me. Sex is the mixing bowl in which the alchemy of change most likely happens for me. I’ve worked thru more shit skin to skin and face to face through my intimate sexual relationships than in any old therapist room ... intimate sexual connection is emotionally charged space. It is a microcosm for the all.

In yoga terms sexual intimacy is like my “on the mat” practice for me. My hope is things I discovered about myself there I take off the mat/out of the bedroom and into the world.

If I’m going to use the word “sacred” for anything, it’s this. Sex is a sacred practice for me. 🙌🏽🙏🏽