I have always been a "knight in shining armor" for girls, and always saw in them the best, tried to encourage, motivate... because of this I was receiving next "knife in the back". But I continued, with the stubbornness of an idiot, to consider my main duty is to become a stair for women, thanks to which they can become better, more self-confident.
This went on for quite a long time... but over time I noticed that my "inner light" goes off and I cannot give it away so easily as before! I became like a squeezed lemon. The first true thoughts began to visit my young mind... What seems so obvious now, then it was like a sudden enlightenment, an epiphany! Truly YOUR man not only "takes", but also "gives"! All of us, every one without exception, like batteries... and our life energy is not infinite, it encourages us to do wonderful things, but sooner or later it runs out if it does not "feeded"!
I began to look at life more "soberly". But thoughts that "princesses need to be protected from dragons" were still in my head and periodically I "stepped on the same rake" :) I was pretty naive in my youth. But, people are lying! This simple truth also didn't come easily to me, at the cost of the first marriage... Among other things, any person can be not frank even with himself, because he or she doesn't know himself! After all, driven into the framework of morality and everyday life, we often do not have the opportunity to know ourselves for real!
In such cases, there are usually two ways:
"Grow a thick skin" - Effectively enough to protect themselves from the moral injury, but also to live for real more difficult.
Change yourself - Yes. This is hard. Recognize your mistakes, work on your worldview and perception...
I guess I combined both of these options. I stopped "wasting myself" on "empty" people and gradually restored my "inner light". I rethought my goals and realized that I do not need a "princess" looking for herself in life... at expense of my lifetime. All my perception of this world turned upside down when I met her... We really live happily! We love and support each other! But we are both people "with the core", our characters strong enough and don't change, we do not adjust to each other. We are always frank with each other even in small things. Without compromise! Yes, we have quarrels, but without insults and massacre :) And at this stage in my life, I can give an absolutely precise definition of love...
True love is not a victory over the dragon for her, but life with her, even knowing that she is the dragon!
So, I found what I was really looking for! :) Personality! Not the one who will only use me and "suck up energy", but the one who always "fills me" with her energy.
Look for truly yourself, your happiness and don't take the templates for your thoughts, friends! What can be happiness for the majority, can be absolutely don't needed for you! :)
Sincerely, Terry Craft.