Finding beatiful little things in our lives can seem like such a struggle when it shouldn't be.
Perhaps this is because we settle into our routine, and those things are overlooked and no longer seen as something to be grateful for; not becasue we're ungrateful for them, but because we're used to them.
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a routine, human beings tend to become bored with doing the same exact thing everyday, having the same conversations and never switching anything up. Its sad to see relationships fall apart for these reasons. Couples fall into a routine questionairre every day, with routine answers. Routine questions themselves aren't the problem, but being lazy with effort in our responses makes a conversation hard.
Why is it so hard to be original?
We live in a world where one of the main goals is to make things easier.
To really build a friendship, relationship, or even strengthen already existing ones, requires effort . Why is this so daunting? Why is it so hard to devote ourselves to relationship builidng? The outcome of effort in this particular, would be close knit, got-your-back, relatioships. People that your can really count on, yet so often, we shy away from the time and devotion it would take to have those relationships.
Not only does switching up your relational routine surprise the other half of your conversation, it could be exciting for them.
Remember that it is possible to be lonely, despite being surrounded by people. Opening yourself up can be a challenge, but it is one that produces roots in relationships. Ask different questions, make them think. Do something out of the blue that you know they enjoy. Know them on a deeper level, by asking questions outisde of your routine. The questions that society hasn't been giving you to rehearse your entire life. Be spontaneous, and courageous. Share what is important to you, and when answering how your day went, tell them. "Okay" and "Good" aren't necassarily bad answers, but I don't know how much farther a conversations could go with that. People who care for you, and genuinely enjoy your company will want to hear about all the little details of your day. The things that seem meaningless, could be the things that let them know you care enough about them to put effort into your conversations, and relationships.