Greetings to all the steemians 👋 as always a pleasure to be able to share with you. Today I want to address a topic that to my mind is quite worrisome, yes, feeling jealous is normal and I am sure that most of those who read me have experienced it at some point in their lives,that is why to identify when they appear in us. It is a difficult task and much less to identify when someone else is experiencing that sensation, based on their actions and / or behavior. But for sure:
What are jealousy?
In the first place, we are clear that it is an emotion emitted by the human being that goes hand in hand with a series of thoughts, feelings of insecurity, fear, fear, worry and anxiety that arises from an exaggerated desire to possess something exclusively and whose base is infidelity (real or imagined) or failing an early loss of great value, being in this case the connection with that special person.
From there we can deduce that jealousy appears when:
- The couple has a relationship of trust.
- This latent fear of losing an important person.
- Feelings of being betrayed by the person in whom you trust are generated.
When are they transformed into cellopathy?
Begins a behavior that goes beyond normal, of what can be healthy, with attitudes such as:
- Anxiety and / or aggressiveness.
- Behaviors aimed at verifying a deception (check agendas, clothing pockets, telephone, smell the clothes or body of the couple to see if they have a different smell, accompanying the couple or going to look for work, among others ).
- Possession, demand in the couple, be together permanently with the idealization of having control of their life.
- Inhibition, do nothing if you are not with the couple.
- Questions and interrogations, test the veracity of what has been said, scenes, violent discussions, questions of where he is and who he is with, among others.
- Thoughts linked to infidelity, basically consists of the phantom projection or own desires to be unfaithful and convince yourself that your partner is the one who has those desires.
According to the above, we can determine that the Celopathy is not normal, as many have wanted to see it, it is a harassment, it bursts aggressively against someone who does not belong to you, who is by your side does it voluntarily and in freedom . You can not pretend to make someone happy when it does not belong to you, just as it is not up to you to choose your friends, your contacts or those who integrate your social circle. This person enjoys absolute freedom, with you or without you, being with you should not harm that guarantee.
Now, what makes the cellopa generate in him and in his environment, a vicious circle accentuated by violence and authoritarianism. The psychopathology, could lie in the crisis of insecurity in itself, which undoubtedly leads the person to doubt the other, the feeling of need for control, ends up taking it into a mental labyrinth, turns into a crisis of panic, which it rejects everything that approaches its prey.
Identifying that type of person, without fear of exaggerating the extensive, could save your life, submit to some form of control in the name of love, end up dragging you to unhappiness and remember: if this has already affected you, "you will not recover being in the same place".
What do you think about doing? 🤔
Grateful that you read me, I hope to have your opinions on the subject that is currently very controversial.