A Tactical Future - Episode 3: The Mysteries of Solitude
I imagine that no one in this world wants to find himself alone in his life, let alone feel alone around familiar people. But if I told you there were advantages to this loneliness, would you think I was jabbing? I always believe there are two sides to everything, a good side and a bad side. Just like a coin. The question on which side you always prefer to look at is that you always have the option to choose.
Now I will not tell you that being alone all your life is one big advantage, really not. But you should also find some net time just for yourselves. Like if you do not take something in balance and exaggerate the results will be more exaggerated, say if we eat a lot of sugar then we breathe, if you will be a long time from life in nerves your hair will whiten and drop ... So if you are too alone, you are able to develop mental illness. The greatest of us is that we have the option to maintain balance in everything, if we keep it, not only enjoy all worlds but also gain.
So about what I'm going to talk about in the episode, it's about this "alone". Do not think that I encourage loneliness, social detachment and any other extreme thing that our natural mind immediately thinks while judging, but only I show you the benefits and potential in helping it to succeed once we know balance and time management to give the place to it too.
If you have noticed or not noticed, in today's modern and advanced today few and almost even afraid to be a moment with themselves. Especially near the people's environment. Fearing death from the moment of being seen alone. If you see people on your own, you'll see them messing around with your smartphone, or if two people alone pass through the hallway, they'll roll their eyes and be afraid to look at each other and if a person takes a number and waits in a queue, It's all about distracting people from thinking about him.
I do not know how to explain it, but I'll try. I just feel and see that if a person is not with someone in a public or social environment, he will die of fear of being alone, if it is in his mind what people think of him as just being in the same place and looking lonely and if it is the discomfort of the people around to communicate with each other .
We have developed too many protectors, screens and masks and have drowned in our own thoughts and stigmas that we have created while burning a wealth of amazing opportunities to get to know and enjoy, and not only that, we are strengthening our fear of coping alone with situations, .
So where do you get out of this whole mess? You're probably asking ... Where do you start ?! So I'll tell you where! It will be difficult at first, but you will have to work on it and if that time only strengthens you and feel better with yourself (especially with the new people you will know from now).
This is the starting point for your opportunity to start taking advantage of the wonders of alone by starting to apply it without fear and thus helping yourself to advance to a better life future.
So first thing first of all ...
Stop thinking about what people think of you !!!
Come on, Rebak, stop it! You do not realize how much it takes from you in life. How it affects natural behavior and especially the uniqueness of your character. You do not realize how much of your potential and talent it destroys you ... let alone mental health. It is exhausting and tiresome to think and think how to look in my eyes to pray that they will think of you only as good.
I am sorry to tell you, no matter how good you behave, you will always see in my eyes a certain population of people that you know or know in your life as people who do not come well in the eye and will not think of you as good as you want.
To reassure you completely, I must tell you something. It's so fine that you do not look like everyone's good, amazing, and beautiful. Honestly. Anyone who tries all his life to look like that will not get anything. Even the heroes you admire most, even the greatest human beings in the world, the characters from all the movies and series that you love some people do not think about them well and even against them.
So start thinking like a hero! Because the heroes have villains, and what is beautiful is that they win in the end.
You'll understand! Even the most perfect people for you in the world have people for whom these people are not perfect and they will not think of them good things. The question of what you choose to waste your time? When you've always got the people who'll be jealous of you. There is nothing to do, it is human nature and it is impossible to change landscapes that the world created.
The same pattern of thinking is. Makes you neutralize all the benefits of the alone wonders you can do to improve yourself, progress, succeed, get rich, and live the perfect life for you.
I'll take you to a very classic example: a first date.
The guy and the girl meet for the first time in the restaurant. With absolute natural and automatic nature, everyone will begin to think what the other thinks about him so that he will love him. Everyone suddenly judges with every thought that he is about to do.
And then what happens during the date? Just a retarded comedy film. And if a twist is created and it turns out that one of them has full confidence and knows what he is worth and does not care what they think, then the other will get such a head that there is a high chance that he will not recover from such an embarrassing situation. The beauty is to open all the cards, to tell the things you like most without being ashamed and the things you most believe in. Then automatically the guy and the girl will understand if they really love the person and there is chemistry and not just because he behaves differently as a result of this horrible disease of thinking. About me? "
Of course, it's always good to hear about good things that are thought of you, no doubt. But there is no doubt that these things are heard only that there is real communication, openness between people and true sympathy. Someone who thinks badly about someone else because he does not feel well in the eye and then changes his aspect of him because of something, it is a net affliction of our great problem as people about the over-thinking of "what do they think of me?"
Admits that I too would have dealt a great deal with this thing. I would have been anxious to show my behavior, to share things I love to do and all the other things ... until I realized it was so unnecessary and wasting a great time. Until now I'm still working on you to understand, it's a process. But it strengthens you and gives you the feeling that you will succeed day by day and will be the one standing on his. I will give a tiny example of a situation from my personal life. I can not stand smoking, it's not healthy. I have never tried and I do not want it to be such a central part of my life. But the company I'm around at work right now is almost all smokers and as a result of smoking they get more and more together, sitting outside together between breaks. While I'm not joining, not because I'm an anti-Semite, God forbid. But because I can not be in all that smoke while people who do not smoke sit with them just to please and show they are something thinking they will not think bad things about them. What is it that does not bother me and I stand on my own, and I'll tell you a secret? Everything is fine. I communicate with those who are suitable for me, with whom I need and do good, and I am certainly at peace with myself and always say what I have to say without fear, because I am open and honest. Even with every new person I know and with people I already know. You have no idea how much it saves negative things and wastes time from life. How much it helps to develop and improve ... and I want you to have a clue ...
So only after I'm sure you stop thinking about what people think of you ...
In the next post, the next part, get ready to get all the benefits of the wonders of the alone that you are going to realize and perform!
- Taken here from the book: "Tactical Future" - Sagiv Miller:
