Today I want us to think about a very interesting point, I would like to start with the following sentence: although we can learn many things from others, that knowledge will only be part of our essence when we internalize it, that is, it depends on us, we depend on ourselves.
Our mind is stubborn, we have a mind that is predisposed to resist change, our mind does not open or always enjoy the novelty; When it comes to more or less vital things, the human mind becomes conservative, it retreats on itself then it has a hard time adapting, it is very difficult for it to change, it is very difficult for it to modify its schema by new schemes. If we have contradictory information and contrast it with what we think it is easier to say that what is happening outside is not true, to have to change our whole system, that mental rigidity leads to a series of problems.
But the most important thing is that you can understand how the method or procedure that our mint uses to manage these schemes works, it is a method that shows that we are not the best information processors within the species. First let's take the following situation as an example: when you are little you have a theory, the theory referring to yourself, to life, referring to many things and all those theories you keep and keep them in the form of schemes. Schemes are generalized point of view, for example as a child they tell you that you are useless, your dad tells you that you are useless, your mom tells you that you are useless, the neighbor tells you that you are useless, the teacher tells you that you are useless; that is, you convince yourself and you swallow the story that you are useless that transforms into a self-schema, into a generalized, strict, rigid vision of yourself; and the funny thing is that when something happens that shows you that you are not useless your mind will not say Oh
I was wrong I am a capable person! - NO, your mind will say for sure it was a matter of luck, sure it was by accident.
You will always try to prove that you are useless, and that is the surprising thing that is the basis of human stupidity, then you will start to skew information, you will be more attentive to your mistakes, because as you think you are useless ! You will be permanently perceiving your blunders because as you think you are useless and you will remember more your mistakes than your successes.
It's like that self-schema will limit you so that you could get out of the tangle of the self-punishment of the autorotulacion, of that tombstone that was hung when they said you were useless, that is, then the mind is stubborn, change is not easy but it can be; the people who say that people do not change - that's not the case. The psychologists
know that people change, perhaps in extreme situations, perhaps in situations where the information that reaches you is so strong is so shocking that you have no choice but to modify the internal system, then we move by what is called the principle of the economy cognitive, it is less expense for the system to confirm what we already have to disconfirm it.
Deconfirming something involves a lot of effort, so it's easier to say that that is wrong. Let's take another example: if I am a very macho type and I think that women are inferior and I contract a woman because I do not have another to solve a problem in my company and she takes the company forward. I am going to say: I stop being macho? or I will say: this woman is the exception, is not like the others? The mental scheme will make you say the second. Once we create our idea of the world, our idea of ourselves will defend it and that is part of the mental revolution; the mental revolution is to break those schemes, to break those paradigms, to leave our comfort zone, is to break this paradigm of self-dissatisfaction absolutely.
You are the one who writes your destiny, God gives you the paper and the ink, but you write it, you can define if you go down or go up; It all depends on your mind that it becomes less stubborn.
