Anger is a negative emotion that the human being has forged in his subconscious from the accumulation of unhealthy information and experiences that he has acquired over the course of his life. (In Peru anger or anger is also called anger)
About anger, the following statements can be established:
The anger is gradual in terms of intensity, depending on the person and situations or circumstances. In that sense, anger can go from mild to severe in a few minutes if there is a triggering factor.
Lack of anger control can lead to violent reactions or verbal aggression even to people who feel great affection.
The anger is a natural emotion in the human being that nevertheless can be attenuated, controlled and reduced to its minimum expression if the person has learned to discipline the mind in values such as tolerance and virtues such as empathy.
The people with many prejudices product of insecurities and fears related to their past are more prone to anger.
The physical fatigue or mental fatigue can also be breeding ground to develop anger.
If there is a situation that reminds of traumas or frustrations of the past, anger can come out as a spring.
The anger reflected in our actions or reactions severely damages our relationships in the family, personal and work environment.
Ways to control anger
Hold yourself or sit comfortably in your room, as relaxed as possible and begin to analyze what are the causes of your anger.
The first thing is to be aware that you have that problem, you must admit to yourself, that it is a situation that is harming you.
Analyze all the causes of your anger from childhood traumas to current frustrations through bad acquired habits that have been assumed by your subconscious.
Use the strategy of silence to get calm in front of others. On several occasions silence can save us many troubles and bad moments.
Practice such calm whenever you can by avoiding speaking or reacting or simply withdrawing from the place if you notice the appearance of mild anger.
Make a firm intention to reduce the harmful information that affects your subconscious and generates the appearance in different degrees of anger.
Analyze what degrees of anger you have had and what you might have. For example, visualize yourself in complex situations, imagine in your current state what could happen if you let yourself be carried away by anger. Even tragedies could happen.
Think now of all the energy saved that could be earned and that would be eroded in conflict situations and even violence that could be avoided.
Now think about the welfare that this energy saved can bring. You will get more calm, relief, peace of mind and good humor. What do you think?
Learn to change the feelings of anger for quality thoughts. Practice thinking about things that motivate you. The very act of controlling anger and being a better person is something that is already motivating.