What is humility
The characteristic of being humble; humbleness in character and behavior.
Be humble simply means thinking lowly of one's self; claiming little for one's self; not proud, arrogant, or assuming; lowly; weak; modest.
WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT HUMILITY
Recent decades, parents have been encouraged to listen to their children’s desires; to praise them generously, even if they did nothing praiseworthy; to withhold correction and discipline. It was thought that if children were
made to feel special, they would grow up with healthy
self-esteem. But what have the results shown? The book
Generation Me states: “Instead of creating well-adjusted,
happy children, the self-esteem movement has created
an army of little narcissists.”
Many children raised with unconditional praise have
grown up unprepared for disappointments, criticism, and
occasional failure. Because of being taught to focus on
their own desires, they find it hard as adults to form lasting relationships. As a result, many of them suffer from
anxiety and depression.
Children develop real self-worth, not by being constantly
told that they are special, but through genuine accomplishments. That requires more than just believing in
themselves. They need to learn, practice, and refine chosen skills carefully.
They also need to care about other people’s needs. Jesus Christ set a perfect examine for we all our great teacher by cleaning the foot of his disciples and even encourage his disciples of this requires humility. He always encourage is disciples to be humble like the little children.
Note
Children are not the only ones that needs to be humble, we all as humans need to have the spirit of humility in us, so that we can teach our children and loves the important of humility by examples.
WHAT IS REQUIRE OF US
Give praise when it is truly deserved. If your daughter
scores well on a school test, commend her. If she gets a low grade, do not automatically blame the teacher. That would hardly help your daughter learn humility. Instead,
help her to see how she may do better next time. Reserve praise for actual accomplishments.
Give correction when necessary. This does not mean that you should criticize your child for every mistake.
But serious errors should be corrected. Colossians 3:21 Fathers,provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
The same can be said about wrong attitudes. Otherwise,
these may become more deeply ingrained.
For example, suppose your son is showing a tendency to brag. Uncorrected, he could become conceited and begin to alienate others. So explain to your child that boasting makes him look bad and that it could set him up for embarrassment. Explain, too, that a person with a balanced view of himself does not feel the need to broadcast his abilities to others. By giving such correction in the spirit of love, you will teach him humility without hurting his self-respect.
- Matthew23:12 - And whosoever shall exalt himself shall abased, and he that shall humble himself shall be exalted.
Prepare your child for life’s realities. Indulging a child’s every wish can cause him to feel entitled. So, for
example, if your child wants something you cannot afford, explain why it is necessary to live within a budget. If
you have to cancel an outing or a vacation, you could
explain that disappointments are part of life and perhaps discuss how you deal with such disappointments. Rather than shield your children from every hardship, prepare
them for the challenges they will face as adults
Proverbs 29:21.
Encourage giving. Prove to your child that “there is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.” How can you do that ? Together you might prepare a list of people in need of help with shopping, transportation, or repair work.
Then take your child along as you assist some of them. Allow your child to see your joy and satisfaction as you care for the needs of others.
That way you will teach your child humility in the most powerful way.
We all need to humble in order to raise our children and teach our loves humility not by words but by examples.