What happens if for some reason people no longer understand each other?.. Men may say that women attach too much importance to small things. Maybe one who thinks so, just doesn't know yet that for women with a simple gesture is just as important as something significant, like an expensive gift? No need to wait for the holiday to make favorite nice. Besides the tokens, unlike gifts, are worthless, but the woman will feel loved. Your heat you will be back! Smiling woman and her gratitude mean to men very much - it feels stronger and more confident. In any case, so says John gray, and he knows...
John gray is a Certified family therapist, a specialist in the field of relations between people, a member of the Commission of experts of the International Association of consultants, marriage and family relations. The doctor of philosophy. More than 30 years conducting private and public workshops, performs in television and radio programs. The author of many books devoted to the psychology of relationships and their improvement. The total circulation of his book "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus", released in 1993 and was translated into almost 40 languages, had reached about 10 million copies.
So, men's 55 ways to show love and care. Each token can, by analogy with basketball to compare with the earned points (2 points with a short distance, 3 - long, 1 - penalty). Good luck!
The first thing you need to do is return home to hug his wife.
Ask her about the day. Your questions should show that you are aware of her plans (for example, ask: "have You seen a doctor? And what did he say?").
Respect her feelings when she is angry or upset.
Learn to listen and ask questions.
If you see that she's hurt, do not explain to her that it's not your fault. Say, "I'm Sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you."
Bring flowers to his wife on the occasion of the celebration, and no particular reason. Let it be a pleasant surprise for her.
Do my wife compliments.
If the wife need to cook lunch or dinner, and she was tired or really busy, offer to help her.
If you are late, call home and tell her.
If you need to be alone, tell the wife that you need time to think about some questions.
If the dishes are usually washes his wife from time to time offer to do it for her.
If she is tired, cook for her tea.
Leaving the house, ask whether you need to go to the store. Don't forget to buy what you asked for.
Don't force her to hurry up (plan your time to allow, if, for example, somewhere to go). Treat with understanding to its decision to change the style of clothing.
Plan your joint actions in advance.
Call my wife from work to see how she was going, or to share the news and sometimes for no reason.
Often tell my wife "I love you". Can't say-write SMS.
If you must leave, call his wife on his arrival at the place and tell how I got.
Show the wife that you missed her while away.
If someone gave the wife of composure, take her side.
If you watch television together, do not switch channels constantly.
Holding his wife's hand, make sure that your hand does not become sluggish.
Take note to his wife people give her more attention than others.
Give preference to his wife in front of children. Let them see that your attention in the first place is given to their mother.
Do wife small gifts.
Before you have sex, take a shower.
Use the cologne that she likes.
Do not forget about caresses that are not related to sex.
Wipe the bathroom floor after taking a shower.
Make a bed.
Watch the filling of the bin and take it out as needed.
Change the blown bulbs, without waiting for the wife to do it herself.
Turn your socks off and put them in the wash area.
Pay attention to how your wife looks, and do not forget to speak out about it. Notice: “You look great today” or “You look tired. Something happened?".
Do not answer the phone if the wife shares her feelings with you at this time.
Ask how your wife feels, what kind of mood she is in.
Show her the same signs of attention and try to behave with her in the same way as at the beginning of your acquaintance.
Open the door to your wife.
Offer something to fix in the house. Ask: “Is there anything to be repaired? I have free time". Do not grasp what you cannot do.
Write down what needs to be fixed (repaired) in the house, and hang up the list in the kitchen. Refer to this list when you have the time. Do not over tighten with the implementation of the intended.
When the wife is cooking, praise her culinary art.
When the wife is talking to you, look at her, confirm your interest by saying “yeah”, “yeah”, “you must.”
Try to go to bed at the same time with her.
Laugh when she jokes.
When discussing a particular issue, try to show that you want to take into account its interests and at the same time want to get what you need. Be compliant, but don’t make a victim of yourself.
Let your wife know that you carry her photo in your wallet. Change the photo from time to time.
In festive occasions, such as an anniversary or birthday, write a letter or a postcard to your wife, compose a love message or poem in order to pleasantly surprise her.
Drive carefully, do not exceed speed. Take into account the wishes of the wife.
Do not let your wife carry weights.
Sharpen your kitchen knives yourself.
Thank your wife when she does something for you.
Take time to be alone with her.
Walk with your wife, without children, for walks.
Buy your wife her favorite treat.
Remember dates and anniversaries.
Let your spouse familiarize yourself with this list - let her supplement it if desired.