happy forever second chapter: how to express acceptance
part number sixteen
most of us tend to think of acceptance as an attitude that can not be expressed in words. Since we love our spouse and respond to him, we think he automatically understands that he is accepted. Although acceptance originates in the interior, it must also be demonstrated through actions, as well as through words. It is necessary to tell the spouse that he accepts it as he or she is.
At the beginning it may be difficult to express acceptance through words, but it is necessary to try to do so. we must try to discover individual phrases to express them. a simple and effective way of saying it. it's this: I like it as you are. When one says that he likes a person as he is, that means that he likes him in totality, including his faults. Another way to show acceptance is to say. "You are a nice person" I like the way you do things "" You are exactly what I had hoped and dreamed you wanted as a person. "It is necessary to mention in which way the spouse has satisfied the hopes and dreams.
These verbal expressions of acceptance are a necessary part of life every day, when things work well, but are more necessary when the spouse is hurt. On those occasions he needs to hear words of appreciation and acceptance, not only for the things I have done, but for what he or she is as a person.
it may be that at the beginning the words spoken do not seem to have much sincerity, because it requires time to reach the full measure of total acceptance. but you can act on principle, and because in this way a human need is satisfied. It will be found that the more acceptance is expressed, the easier it will be to fully accept the spouse.