Excerpt: The immediate relief for an emotional pain or trauma is to focus the attention in the now moment. Simply to stop the mind chatter. This method brings an ease to the mind and quickly to the body. With persistent, the energetic field is being cleansed and a balance is regained. Many people, in times of emotional stress, resort to alcohol, drugs or food. And why? because those methods halt the thinking process and bring them immediate relief. But then again, with some willpower, you can dismiss your thoughts and avoid the refuge of those external substances, which are no help for the long run.
Hi David,
I feel like crying. I have just discovered that the girl I was in love with has cheated on me. We had a long-distance relationship and although we have hardly seen each other in the past year I trusted her and I was sure she was in love with me as well. But today, after several days in which I didn't receive any email from her, she confessed that she has a new boyfriend. Oh, David, what shall I do now? You have no idea how much effort and time I invested in that relationship; how much energy I spent; what wonderful plans I weaved in my mind for us. Everything is collapsing now, and I feel miserably alone and hopeless. Right now I don't believe at all in love let alone True love. She lied to me the whole time! How could she do such a thing?
Sorry for rattling on. I guess I just wanted to spill out some feelings to ease my despair and sadness. Thank you for listening,
Joe
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Dear Joe,
I hear you and I do indeed know what you are going through. Before expressing in words the things that you surely know, I want you to stop what you are doing and relax. Just breathe.
Breath deeply several times and do it consciously, think of this act of breathing. It will relax your thoughts and will rebalance your Self for the next couple of minutes. Do it now. Then continue reading.
Breathe ....
Now, I want to remind you of some old wisdom.
Love is real no matter what you think or believe. Even if you look away, love is there and remains forever. Love, in its most physical and romantic meaning, is there for you. A wonderful spouse, your twin-flame, your beloved wife to live with you forever is there for you! This is real. This is a reality that you can create for yourself.
You know it. You feel it at the bottom of your heart, deep under the frustration and sadness of the mind. Do not lose faith!
In times of sadness and great emotional havoc, where your inner world goes hectic and you cannot see bright sunshine, do the following:
First - decide not to worry. Say to yourself, in the firmest possible way that you will not worry now; that you can always worry tomorrow but now you will not worry.
Second - take a few deep breaths and focus on the immediate reality that surrounds you. Bring your attention to what you see, hear, feel and taste (if you eat something). Be conscious of everything that happens around you and if possible focus on vitality and only pleasant things. But make sure you focus on the now.
Third and last - know in your mind that the best possible outcome will occur. Be fully convinced that you will find your True Love; that you will have a wonderful spouse as you have always dreamt of; that life will surprise you in the best possible ways. Have high expectations for the future and know that all happens for your highest good. Yes, including this break-up.
The girl left you and that created a trauma for reasons that may be unknown to you. But yet they are valid reasons. It's not that you did something wrong, or you are not a good spouse, or she was lying the whole time. No. The main reason is your own path in life. A wiser part of you, the Master self, knows that a relationship with that girl, right now, would impede your progress. And so, a situation in which you are being emotionally torn was created. Now that you were startled you can carry on with the plan you have set for your self in this lifetime.
Joe, the universe supports you. Do the above exercises I gave you. They will ease your immediate pain. Forget about the past, forget about the girl. Do these exercises and follow your instincts. You will be surprised by the outcomes.
You are never alone
