Often, parents continue to struggle with discipline problems ideally always obeyed by children. Parents sometimes have to force their children to discipline at home, respect their parents, speak in polite tones, study diligently, nap on time, which essentially regulates all of Little's movements. However, it must be remembered, the discipline that you mean not only make corrections to the behavior of children only. But it also teaches them how to be able to control themselves, and care about the environment, so they can grow into successful people in the future. For that, there are several approaches you can take to help children discipline themselves.
Firmly
If you forbid children not to do something, make reasonable excuses, by giving explanations and guidance to them. Children today would not want to accept excuses like, "Do not sit at the door, pamali!" Or, "Do not play too late, will be kidnapped Kalong Wewe!" Tell him why he can not sit in the door or play late in the afternoon, late in the evening.Do not be clear
Basically, Little One will imitate what adults do. So even if you and your partner acted wily about a decision. For example, you do not agree he's jumping on the bed, while your partner let him. This will only make him confused, consequently he ignores your disapproval. So, make a decision deal with your spouse to make it easy for children to behave.Invite Compromise
Children can not always cope with and distinguish between big and small issues. Occasionally, compromise and understand themselves. Compromise will make it easier for children to deal with the bigger issues later on. For example, if he neglects to look left and right as he will cross the road, next time he will not be so again. If you object to his attitude, state clearly. For example, "Stop throwing your toys, kid!" But do not say, "Hey, the toys should not be thrown, dong!"Give Guidance
If your child is rummaging through a book from the closet in the living room, just say, "Would you stop 'playing' the book? Read it, yes in your room?" If she does not care about what you say, in a gentle but firm way, you can guide her to her room and tell her she can come back to the living room if she will listen to your words.Give Warning
If the child knows the rules you have made, at a certain age, you only need to ask him, when committing an offense. He will immediately feel reluctant to you, because there are consequences or sanctions that must be received immediately, after the offense is made. If you are accustomed to making a warning limit to a count of 5, this time subtract to a count of 3, so the child will learn to immediately change his attitude after being warned.Give the Reason
If the child is playing with sharp objects, you must be more careful to commemorate it. Explain in clear and simple language, what will you do and mention the reason. For example, "Mama keep the knife huh, honey, you can hurt your hand!" Or, "Mama asks you not to play water, then the floor will be slippery and can make you fall."Do not Delay Punishment
If you want to punish an undisciplined child, punish him as soon as you know he's undisciplined. Do not let you delay giving punishment to him. Therefore, children will not accept punishment or repeat mistakes. Give educational punishments, such as sweeping the floor, tidying up the bed, not playing a play station or barbie, or cleaning the bathroom.Keep Calm
Anger while yelling, yelling, or lecturing children endlessly, will make you a person who committed verbal abuse against children. This action can actually damage the sense of self-esteem in your child. As a result, the child does not have a sense of confidence in ahdapan parents.Knees (Aligning View)
Get down when talking to Little One, especially when giving a criticism to him. Bend your knees or take a sitting position in front of him, so that your eyes are parallel to him. With this attitude, you do not have to worry about losing respect from him. On the contrary, he will increasingly respect and appreciate you as a parent.Do not Lecture
Invite Little Person to chat and discuss, rather than lecturing at length. Although it seems that this statement does not sound like a tone, like, "It's been so many times Mama says ..." Or, "Every time you really ...", still gives the impression that he is destined to always disappoint you, whatever he does . Try rolling out questions like, "Smoking, right, not good for kids, huh?" Or, "Do you like it if your friend is distracting at school, son?" KRITIKLAH his attitude, do not blame himself.