How to treat lying in children
Behavior of lying in children
Lying is the opposite of honesty . It is a description of a certain thing or position that is contrary to what actually happens ; either partially or completely, it is distorting the facts to achieve a physical, social or psychological goal. Lying in children is acquired from the surrounding environment such as the family; (By observing the lie or exaggeration of someone in the story of an incident) is thought to be normal behavior, or exaggerating parents in urging their children to be honest and control all their behavior and severe accountability to them in all small and large in a strict manner; which reflects the psychological child , There is also an opposite reaction As well as the role of friends and school, either by entrenching and distorting lies, or denying them and avoiding them. [1]
What types of lies
The types of child's use of lying vary according to the attitudes and causes that are exposed to them, and thus their types are divided into the following: [2]
• Fiction lies : This kind of lying lies in children who enjoy fertile imagination, fluency of tongue , speed in the growth of language abilities, and thus the ability to express and penetrate imaginary and unrealistic stories and events, reflecting the high level of intelligence and the ability of the child to create his fantasy world The individual made his own ideas.
• Obstruction lies : occurs when the child is some confusion between truth and fiction ; any possible that the child hears a fairy story and the ratification of , or realistic story liked; Vtmketh details and the Bmaistha envision, and re - listed with the change of the characters and some of the events, or he sees his dreams and true as reality; So this type of lying is linked to the mental abilities of the child, and usually disappear as the child progresses in the stages of age, and the development of mental maturity.
• claim lies : The use of this lie may be caused by the child for the purpose of drawing attention, low self-concept, low self- confidence of the child , a sense of inadequacy or improper family formation, poor living conditions and feelings of deprivation or deprivation; His room, or go on various trips; to show his friends that he is the best, and has a lot of things.
• Lying purpose : The child resorts to lying to achieve what he wants while opposing the authority so he will lie and deceive to get his purpose; he may ask for money to buy what he needs for school (while he goes to buy candy), or goes to study with one of his friends Go to play a game or an activity), and this shows when the stresses of parents, and the large punishment of their children, and not meet their needs that they wish.
• Retaliation lies often because of jealousy and a sense of injustice. It arises as a reflexive reaction to the child's observation of the discrimination of a parent or family member among children in general, or of discriminating child teachers in the school environment; revenge retaliation is a refuge in such cases; In particular from siblings or peers; it is considered as a kind of recovery of right, justice as perceived by the child, or in reprisal for unequal opportunities.
• protection lies : The child resorted to lying in the event of fear of punishment or reprimand, especially if the severity of the punishment is not commensurate with what is required by the situation, the child lies to defend himself and protect him, and shows clearly when the authority is harsh and expect punishment without understanding the circumstances and causes.
• Lying to tradition : The child recognizes the legitimacy of lying by tradition of the adult around him; this type is shown when parents use lying methods, the child imitates the behavior of his parents, whether good or bad, for example when someone comes to visit the father, the father asks the mother to tell the visitor that there is no The father at home, the child watching and watching and aware of what happens unintentionally parents to make this behavior , and therefore lying is a method to get rid of problems.
• Lying lies when lying is usually chronic in the child; it becomes a personal feature, which is the result of negligence in the treatment of lying as a temporary behavioral phenomenon in the event that it occurs, and the use of appropriate pedagogical methods that deter the child from it; to become a phenomenon that accompanies the patient without feeling it, and Out of his will.
Lying is a social scourge that robbed love and trust, and reflects suspicion and suspicion towards the person known as a false person. The parents and educators must adjust the lying by the appropriate treatment methods to the nature of the situation when it is observed and its appearance; so as not to spread and aggravate and accompany the child in the stages of maturity; Many educational and therapeutic methods to avoid the problem of lying in children, including: [1] [2] [3]
• The family must be a source of proper nurturing for the child. Keeping the child informed of a healthy environment creates a good role model for believing in her words, promises and actions, in addition to instilling psychological security and stability and avoiding anxiety. The child who is psychologically stable does not feel the need to lie and the child is always afraid to resort to it.
• Teaching the child the virtue of honesty, and encouraging him to mention a house of poetry , or a story showing the reward of the sincere and false reward, in addition to the use of reinforcement towards him in the case of saying honesty and avoid using lies.
• If the child does not tell the truth or denies it, explaining the reasons for his punishment, and not punishing him when he says the truth and forgiving it, to instill the love of honesty and safety in himself.
• Avoid discrimination in the treatment of children, justice and equality among them.
• Strengthen the self-confidence of the child, and stimulate positive attitudes towards himself, and away from the stimuli and emotions that arouse fear and panic in the child
• Equilibrium in the assignment of tasks and taking into account the mental and physical abilities of the child so as not to have to ask for help from one and to lie to the achievement rates for himself.
• Delay in accusing the child of lying before making sure categorically, so as not to continue the launch and hearing, in addition to maintaining the credibility of the breeder.
Ways and means of treating lying in children
References
1^ A b Mohammad Ayoub Aahama, the problems of children how to understand them , page 64-72.
2 ^ A b Mohammed Alhishmra, fulfillment when the horse (1997), lying behavior in children (first edition), Saudi Saudi - Riyadh: Obeikan Library, page 34-59.
3↑ "Therapeutic guidance on lying , " Al-Oula network , see it on 12-3-2017.
By: Diana Banna