I had the opportunity to read the book "Educate to be" by Rebeca and Mauricio Wild and I must say that it has helped me to reflect on many aspects of the type of parenting and education that I want to give my children.
I identify with their authors because it is a couple who change their lives completely by having their first child and discover that everything is easier when they decide to go with the child's rhythm and not the other way around. The book tells the experience of a couple who have set up their own school of active education in Quito, Ecuador, in which they have known how to respect children in their individuality, their times and curiosity.
Does it happen to them that it is instinctive to tell them "Nothing happened" when they cry? Has it happened to you that your children have cried a lot for something that did not seem to make so much sense to us but that after crying, the child has been better or more relieved?
It has cost me to banish that phrase, but I realize that I feel a lot of empathy when I give my daughter's cry when she has hurt herself, when another child has hurt her or when she feels bad because she wants something that is not may have at that time. Putting words to her emotions, telling her that I understand that she feels bad but that "now we can not", has helped me to go through moments of sadness for her, and a lot of learning for both of us.
Soon I will share more extracts so that we can continue sharing, thinking, testing, modifying attitudes, improving and feeling better with ourselves and with our loved ones.