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Parents are their children’s first teacher and role model. Kids look up to their parents in everything at almost all times. When they are still young, they boast of every good deed their parents perform to their friends. They eagerly show off and do not hesitate to declare that they want to be like their parents when they grow up. At most times, they believe and trust their parent while holding them in high esteem. This respect, trust and admiration are soon lost though when parents do anything to betray them. It takes a long time as well as a lot of hard work to gain back the trust and that is if they are able to. But do you know what? Losing your kids’ trust can come very easy when you treat them preferentially especially the little ones.
What happens when you treat preferentially, either intentional or not?
It destroys the child-parent bond
We all are humans, it may not be possible for us to accommodate and love people at the same rate. But, parents are different! They have the space to love as many kids as possible, each for different reasons. Parents who want a happy family and want their children to grow up in a peaceful household will try as much as possible to show their children equal form of love and affection in order to strength the bond and love
Rivalry amongst siblings
Once a child discovers that mum loves his brother than him and that dad supports his sister in everything she does, but shows little or no concern in her activities. Then, they become wary of each other; they become rivals for your affection and attention instead of friends that they are supposed to be.
Low self-esteem and reduced self worth
This is a psychological effect preferential treatment has on a child. It makes them self cautious always and do not make them have confidence in themselves. It ebbs away the confidence they have and make them believe they are not worthwhile.
Preferential treatment in child upbringing adds nothing positive to the family. It only destroys the home. It scatters whatever bond that binds any relationship the family may have. Love your children equally and if you find it difficult to do so, try not to show them that you love one of them more than the other. Provide a peaceful, safe and comfortable home for your child to grow up in for it is a determining factor in the proper development of your child.