I remember hearing about arranged marriages when I was very young. I couldn’t grasp the whole concept of them because I was too young to understand but I do remember thinking it was a horrible thing. I thought,

how could parents make their kids be with someone for a lifetime that wasn’t their choice? It’s slavery!

I then learned at an older age forced marriages were what I was speaking of above. This is where one or both parties have no say so. In arranged marriages on the other hand, both parties agree with the arrangement that has been made.

There are several factors that encourage arranged marriages:

• tradition
• culture
• religion
• limited choices
• marrying late
• disabilities
• politics

One of the reasons stated above is why I think arranged marriage is not a bad idea...

Limited Choices

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When you have children of your own your perspective about things changes quite a bit. I now understand why some families opt for arranged marriages. Looking at the things going on around us, our society is becoming scarier and more dangerous everyday. It’s harder to trust people now and you really don’t know if people are who they say they are (in all aspects). The choices for potential people are becoming scarce.

I look at some teenagers and young adults today and think,

oh my goodness your kids will be my kids’ peers. Your kids could be the ones possibly marrying my kids.

Looking at how they behave gives me an idea of how their children will be because our children are a reflection of who we are (in most cases because some kids totally go astray from their upbringing). I know these teenagers could change and they will have room to grow but what if they don’t? What if they stay the same and their kids grow up to be disrespectful and criminal? I don’t want my children to be with someone along those sorts. So what’s my solution?...

Friends of the Family

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I have had some of my babies around the same time as a few of my close friends. We share the same values, morals and are pretty active in each other’s lives. I know how they raise their children and the standards they live by. So why not? This would be a perfect setup for our children. We already know and love their parents, we’ve watched them grow up too, we won’t have to “guess” who they really are, won’t have to deal with in-laws we don’t like, they will already be on one accord spirituality and they have grown up together as family friends.

All of my friends are on the same page with this because they don’t want their kids to end up marrying a ‘Cray Cray’! 🤪 We have already begun matching our kids up according to age and personality. Lol

Okay in case you were wondering if we are really going to do this for our kids this was only us wives talking. We joked and laughed around of the idea (we really did match them up though 😁) but our husbands weren’t involved in that convo. I think they would agree if we really talked about it though. Although an arranged marriage might not take place for our children, it will be a...

Guided Marriage

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We are teaching and instilling biblical values in our children. We strongly believe in marrying someone you are equally yoked to. My husband is teaching our daughters what a God fearing man looks like through his walk, talk and actions. He especially shows them by the way he governs our home and how he loves and cares for me. At the same time my sons are learning how to be this type of man by watching him. We are guiding them on what type of spouse to desire.

I hope and pray that each of my children that desire to marry, will find that special someone they love and can trust...and that we like their parents! 😜