I will have to say my opinion on pre-marital sex in relationships, It might hurt, but the truth remains a bitter pill in the world of lies.Why must sex be the basis of relationships? I know some of you will begin to give me some deficient reasons for indulging in sex when you are not married. As a person, I believe relationships can survive and last long when sex is not involved because sex is the fulfilment of lust outside marriage and not love.
Appreciatively, there are still some people who are in Godly relationship. They have imbibe the standards of God in their relationships. They have the fear of God in their hearts and are also careful not to engage themselves in things that can lead them into sexual immorality (fornication). Don’t tell me that you are having sex with him or her because of “love” because that’s not “True Love”. True love has regards for God’s Word and His authority.
It is a pity that the modern society is not helping the matter at all, what they tell you now is to have “safe sex”, who says there is “safe sex” when God’s judgement is closer to you when you disobey His Word?
I do understand how you feel the urge to have sex because I do feel same, but I don’t give room to urges that will cause me to disregard God’s Word and it is very normal for you to feel the sex urge, but when you allow that urge to make you commit sin against God, then you have no excuse for your action. You have to control your feelings and emotions not them controlling you.
Joseph faced the same temptation you are currently facing but he knew God’s Word and never wanted to disobey Him because he had the fear of God. Listen to his words to Potiphar’s wife “How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?” (Genesis 39:9). If Joseph could do that and flee from committing the sin of fornication, you can also overcome if you allow God’s word to be the standard in all you do in a relationship.
You are different and unique so don’t be carried away by the lame reasons people give for engaging in pre-marital sex. The world is looking for those who will uphold the standards of the Word of God. God is looking for those who will take their stand firmly against pre-marital sex, someone that will boldly say “Others may but I would not” when it comes to pre-marital sex. Don’t get carried away by the world’s influence but let God’s Word and the fear of God be in you. God’s grace is readily available for you. You are still single but don’t be STUPID!!!
If you have been indulging in the act of pre-marital, God is ready to forgive you and make you pure again, there is still a second chance for you, but do not procrastinate the day of your salvation because tomorrow maybe too late for you.
May the Lord open your understanding to this earnest badger and warning.