Love is from God, love and sex are great and can only blossom in that which He mandates.
There are certain truths that need to be said about sex outside marriage. Premarital sex does more harm than any iota of good. It reduces the sexual pleasure you are to have with that one person who is to become your spouse. How do I know this? Sex wasn't made for singles, nor was it made for those dating or one night stands, it was made solely for marriage.
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Marriage must be held in honor by all, and the marriage bed be undefiled, because God will judge sexually immoral people and adulterers. Hebrew 13:4 LEB
God Himself made sex for married couples(only man and woman)to bring physical and emotional pleasure to each other and He intended it as a powerful bonding agent that shapes and affects the relationship between a man and his wife as nothing else can.
Sex is a holy mystery.
God wants us to reserve sex for marriage precisely because it's such a unique, exclusive, and wonderful thing.
Many who have had premarital sex or adultery won't tell you how they really felt inside. If they are truthful, they will tell you they felt like they were doing something really wrong. Oh yeah, that's the part of us from God our maker that reminds us that sex isn't for that purpose but solely for the marriage union which Him alone blesses.
Also, the full pleasure of sex cannot be enjoyed totally outside wedlock no matter what you have heard or have been told or seen. In the same vein, sexual intimacy was given to us as a gift from God and can only be at its best in the confines of marriage.
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Let's take a look at a case scenario so we deduce some facts that can lead to discovering and applying the truth of God's word.
A young wife opened up to me expressing her frustrations of not enjoying sex with her spouse. She had had quite a number of exes in which she was involved sexually with them.
This made her have high expectations from the man she would marry, anticipating those same sexual encounters she had in her pervious relationship to suffice in her marriage but her husband wasn't like those others she had experienced and it made her disappointed and frustrated.
What was meant to be enjoyed with her spouse is what she had already let out of the bag with previous relationships. She was told as a teenager that having sex at a tender age would make her enjoy sex to its core as time went by which certainly isn't true for as you can see, the exact opposite is her case.
We see in the verse of scripture above, God's word tells us to keep the marriage bed undefiled so what does this really mean?
Marriage is honorable in all aspects (that is, marriage is noble and beautiful in every way you weigh it or consider it) and the bed undefiled (that is, whatever takes place in the marriage bed between the man and woman within that marriage context, is pure, acceptable and honourable).
This means therefore that it is only inside marriage that sexual intercourse is pure.Outside of marriage; it is a defilement, it is wrong and dishonorable. Outside of marriage sexual intercourse is something God will release His judgement on.
Therefore, anyone engaging in sexual intercourse with someone they are not married to, is contaminating and polluting themselves. Such persons are making themselves impure. This is how God sees sex outside of Marriage.If He says this is what it is, then it is what it is regardless of how you feel about it.
The All Knowing who knows way better than us all has told us this and to enjoy the blessings of sex, it has to be done the right way.
Stay tuned to my blog for the remaining part of this series. I will round off by stating some lies the world tells about sex; what the purpose of sex is, what sex should be to the single and the married and lots more.
To Be Continued.
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