THAT'S A LIE!!! YES, I'M YELLING!! IT'S A POPULAR LIE THAT MAKES ME EXTREMELY ANGRY.

My wife died when she was 30 and our two children were stillborn. So by your reasoning it's my fault they're dead. If I couldn't have handled it, it wouldn't have happened.

On the contrary, this is true:

(Romans 8:28 NIV) And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.