Be compassionate enough to be kind to yourself. Be courageous enough to be imperfect. Be vulnerable enough to allow your pains dissolve. Absorb the moment, allow affection and intimacy to rule your dark world.
It is not enough to have the sense of belonging - it is important to be presently present with your desires in order to sustain your need to connection with others and to enable others connects with you. Real connection can only happen when and where we are not afraid to be shamed, a place of openness that screams, "here I am, open and naked".
Wherever there is secret, there can't be trust and privacy. You cannot selectively know emotions and expect to prosper in love. Transparency is the real core of oneness and there can't be one where desire is lacking. The more you hide, the less you are seen. Your two can't be one if/when you are too afraid to connect.
Conclusion about the topic
Be vulnerable, allow yourself to get hurt again therein lies the power you need to experience love at its best. You can't hide and be found. Stop living as a stranger in a land you are called to occupy. Set aside your experience
References
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