30-Day Challenge To Become An Attractive Man (Final Part)
“The world is run, changed, and moved forward by men with Missions. A man with a Mission will achieve more in five years than the average ten men will achieve in their entire lives put together, and I mean that in a very literal sense. A man with a Mission will not cry over a girl who dumped him, will not be distracted by petty problems, will not long be delayed by any business or financial setback, will never be bored, and will live longer and have fewer health problems than other men. Women will be wildly attracted to him, and they won’t even know why. Other men will naturally trust him and want to be around him.” – Caleb Jones, “The Unchained Man”
While an occasional lazy afternoon (or the whole weekend) staying in bed having sex can be very pleasurable and life affirming, there’s something extremely attractive, even magnetizing about being a driven man.
To wake up most mornings with a purpose and ready to take on the day, no matter what life throws at you.
This relentless drive to accomplish something, to make yourself into the man that you strive to be is the antidote to most “inner game” issues, such as fearfulness, anxiety, lack of confidence or neediness.
As the paragraph from “The Unchained Man” suggests, a driven man won’t have time to cry or obsess over a girl, he doesn’t get distracted by minutia like “what should I talk about?” or “should I ask her out?” because he sees the big picture.
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The Three Aspects Of Being A Driven Man
Week 4 – Finishing Touches
Day 1
Day 2
How To Be Charismatic No Matter What You Say
Day 3
Day 4
Finding Purpose In A Purposeless World
Day 5
Who do you spend your time with?
Day 6
Day 7
Re-evaluate. See what’s been working best for you so far and discard the rest.
Day 8
What’s Next?
Day 9
Finishing Thoughts
Simply put, because your mind is so preoccupied with “the big picture” – whatever it is for you – you don’t have the mental space to worry about those trivialities, which, interestingly, makes them solve themselves out on their own.
So how do we become driven? How do we develop that twinkle in our eyes that women find so irresistible?
The Three Aspects Of Being A Driven Man
It All Starts With Your Body
You only need to read through experiences of men who, knowingly or not, significantly increased their testosterone levels to realize how much of an impact our body can have on our mental state.
They start lifting heavy weights, improve their diet, sleep better, reduce stress and one day soon enough (usually in a couple of months) realize that they are a lot more confident, they have more energy and their sex drive is through the roof.
On the other side of the spectrum, if you ever tried an experiment where you spent a week only eating junk food, drinking beer and staying at home watching TV, it wouldn’t matter how much of a confident badass you are, by the end of the week you would feel lazy, demotivated and severely more anxious.
I actually do a similar “experiment” every 3 months or so, where with my best friend we spend the weekend only eating junk food, drinking beer and playing Civilization 5. It’s a tradition that I enjoy very much but it takes 3 – 5 days for me to recover afterwards.
And it’s not just about testosterone.
If you want to be a truly driven man, you need to take care of your body. That is why during the first three weeks of the challenge we focused so much on building the habits that will improve your body and mind.
Your environment shapes your life
The second part of the equation is our environment. Or, to be more precise, the people in your life or lack of them.
We’re social creatures and if you spend most of your time with unambitious, sloppy people, they will drag you down over time. It’s not necessarily their fault and its not your place to “save” them, but it is up to you to limit the time spent with such people before their drain the love of life out of you.
Even worse, if you spend your days without people you can connect with – friends or romantic partners – the following sense of loneliness can be debilitating. As far as I’m aware, you can’t be driven and lonely at the same time.
What are your reasons “Why?”
That’s your purpose, your passion, your calling, your mission.
But I’m sure this is not the first time you’re reading how impactful having a mission is. The truth is, there’s a lot of bullshit out there surrounding the topic, such as “If you do what you love, you’ll never work a day in your life.”
Having a purpose doesn’t mean you’ll never struggle, procrastinate, feel doubt or whatever. Instead, when you have a strong enough reason Why?, you will be willing to “eat the shit sandwich” and endure the bad parts to accomplish whatever you’re set out to do.
This purpose will give sense to the emotional rollercoaster that is our lives.
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Becoming a driven man, a man on a mission, is not an easy or quick endeavor, but it’s a worthwhile pursuit that will not only make you a more attractive man, it will change how you see and approach life as a whole.
And while throughout this challenge we already covered the fundamentals under the “Your Body” category, I’d like to take the opportunity to help you take the first steps with handling the other two areas.