那年，你23岁。第一次去女朋友家，见父母。
其实，以前你们也见过，在视频里。这次不一样，是女朋友父母的盛情邀请。
坐在满满的一桌饭菜前，场面太正式，你有些隐隐不安。
餐过半程，女朋友的父亲，果然开始提问，先是些无关紧要的话题，然后话锋一转：
大概什么时候买房？
旁边，女朋友的母亲，也漫不经心说，隔壁家老刘的准女婿，刚买了套三室两厅。
你不知道，说些什么才好。你脑袋里，满是那张每月4000的工资卡。
然后，气氛就冷了。你匆匆吃完饭，找了个公司有事的借口，当天就返程了。
一个星期后，你约了女朋友出来，平静地分了手。
她的泪水，就像决堤的坝，但你仍然冷静的走了。
不是你冷静，而是你开始懂得，谈不起钱的爱情，注定走不远。
Part 2
你26岁了，你终于有了些积蓄。
这三年，你去了新的城市，换了新工作。你曾拼命陪客户喝酒，也曾加班到天亮。
你的工资翻了两倍，某个时刻，你甚至感觉全身充满了力量。你决定去买房。
含着职业微笑的销售顾问，带你去了样板间。
但问了总价，你就沉默了。房子涨价的速度，太快了。
你知道，还不出手，可能再也追不上房价了。
你狠下心，给父母打电话，拿来了他们的10万养老钱。你给所有的亲戚打电话，陪着笑脸，向他们借钱。
三天后，凑够了首付，你去签了购房合同。
按上指印的那一刻，你的眼睛酸了。
有钱多好啊。
你开始懂得，有钱，就有家，你就有稳稳的确定感。
Part 3
离28岁只有四个月的时候，你失去了工作。
你开始重新找工作，从这个城市的南边，奔波到北边。
你突然发现，过了30以后，工作越来越难找了。
要么是薪水太低，要么是要求太高，一大群刚出校门的大学生，等在面试室外，随时准备把你PK掉。
还完3个月的房贷，你突然发现，卡里只剩下1000块钱了。
幸运的是，你终于赶在28岁前，找到了新工作。
虽然公司距离住的地方，有点远，但一切看起来，都是有希望的样子。
Part 4
转眼，你32岁了，成了别人眼里的中产。
日子过得波澜不惊，一切都走上了正轨，孩子也已经3岁，该上幼儿园了。
你有两种选择：楼下的双语幼稚园；或者是把他送到隔壁安置小区，那里也有一家民营的幼教机构。
前一家，每月费用4000，有外教。后一家，1800就够了，老师都是中年的阿姨。
你在电脑上，看了一晚上的虐童新闻，第二天早餐时，你和妻子说：
就去那家4000块的优质幼儿园吧。
你没有和妻子说，这段时间，公司正在进行岗位调整。
你准备申请调岗，从现在悠闲的办公室工作，调到一线工作部门。虽然会累些，但收入会增加不少。
知道调岗的消息后，妻子果然抱怨了你，说你不自量力。
你没有辩解，相反你在心里笑了。
Part 5
又过了三年。
所有的事情，都在向好处发展，你甚至有了野心勃勃的计划，等父母都退休了，就把他们接到身边来。
但清晨，母亲的电话就来了，父亲在晨练时突发脑溢血，县城的医院束手无策。
你相信，这里有优质的医疗资源，有一流的医生，一切会重新回到原来的样子。
但每天几千块的支出，很快就让你感觉到了压力。父亲的医保证，在这里形同废纸。
两个月后，父亲坚持要出院。你不肯，但父亲用含糊的固执的声音告诉你，剩下的，就是康复训练了，老家也可以，哪里都一样。
你送他们回家，平时三个小时的路程，你开了六个小时。
因为你总是忍不住，想爬在方向盘上想哭。
父母老去的速度，比你想象的快多了。
你开始懂了，钱有时也是孝心。如果你有足够的钱，就不会对父母无能为力。
Part 6
如果你没有经历过买房，你不会知道钱有多重要；
如果你没有经历过家人生病，你不会知道，钱是多么不可或缺；
如果你没有过月薪三千的生活，你不会知道，赚钱是为了什么。
同样，为什么年轻时要努力赚钱？
不是为了成为富豪，也不是为了享受。
而是有一天，你有底气说，我可过上更好的生活；
你也有底气对亲人说，亲爱的，别怕，一切有我。
王尔德说：
“我年轻时还以为金钱最重要，如今年纪大了，发现那句话一点不假。”
千万别在年轻时假装不爱钱，你应该更努力一些。
我们努力赚钱，就是为了不对亲人无能为力，就是为了能够对世界说“不”。
你为什么年轻时要多赚钱？这是我听过的最好的回答。
That year, you only 23 years old. First time, your girlfriend invite you to go her house to visit their parents.
Before that, you've seen their parents through the video call. But, this time is not same as before, this is an invitation from your girlfriend's parents.
Sitting in front of a table which is full of meals, the scene is too formal, you are a bit faintly restless.
During having dinner, your girlfriend's father began to ask questions, starting with some non-critical topic, and then change to direct topic which is about:
"When you plan to buy a house..."
Your girlfriend's mother continue said their neighbour, Liu's son-in-law, just bought a house.
You don't know how to answer them. You are thinking of your 4000 dollars monthly salary.
The atmosphere become embarrased. You quickly finish the dinner, and find an excuse to leave.
A week later, you voice out to break up with your girlfriend.
You ignore her tears heartlessness and walk away.
Not because you don't love her, but you begin to understand, a love cannot stay long if without money.
Part 2
You are 26 years old, and you finally have some savings.
In these three years, you went to a new city and changed your job. You have desperately to accompany customers to drink, and also work overtime in company.
Your salary were doubled, and at the same time you feel that you are full of power. Finally, You decide to buy a house.
A sales consultant with a professional smile, lead you to the sample room.
Suddenly you are silent after you ask about the house price. You feel shocked about the house price rose too fast.
You realise that if you did not buy the house at this time, you very sure that you can't afford to buy a house in future.
You determined to call your parents and borrow their 100,000 pension money. You called all of your relatives and borrowed money from them.
After three days, you have collected enough money for down payment and sign the purchase contract decisively.
The moment you press your thumb print, your eyes are full of tears.
You are thinking if you were rich, how good it is..
You begin to understand, you can't have a house without money....
Part 3
There are four months to go before you were 28, you lost your job.
You begin to find another job.
You suddenly realise that when your age reach after 30, you have difficulties in finding a job.
The reasons are either salary is too low, or the requirement is too high, a large group of college students just graduated, waiting outside of the interview, you afraid that you will be eliminated soon.
After you paid for three months of mortgage, you suddenly found that you only left 1,000 dollars.
Fortunately, you have found the new job before you were 28 years old.
Although the company is a bit far from your house area, but everything looks good.
Part 4
Blink of an eye, you are 32 years old.
Life placid, everything is on track, the child already 3 years old, studying in the kindergarten.
You have two options: a bilingual kindergarten downstairs; or you can send him to a settlement next door where there is also a private preschool institution.
The previous school cost a monthly fee of 4000 dollars, include of foreign teacher. The next only cost 1800 and the teacher is middle-aged aunt.
You are in front of the computer, watching news which about child abuse for whole night, on the next morning, you told your wife:
"Go to that 4000 dollars high-quality kindergarten."
You did not tell to your wife during this time, the company is adjusting workers' job position.
You are ready to apply for department transfer , from the now-relaxed office work to the front-line work department. Although the work is tiring, but the income will increase a lot.
Your wife complained about you and blamed you are too over confident when she get to know this.
You did not explain for it but in contrast you are laughing inside your heart.
Part 5
Another three years later.
Everything is good, you even have an ambitious plan, and when your parents are retired, you plan to bring them back.
But in the morning, your mother's phone was coming. Your father had a sudden stroke in his morning exercise, and the county hospital was at a loss.
You believe, there are excellent medical resources, professional doctor, everything will be back to its origin.
But spending thousands of dollars a day, you suddenly feel the pressure. Your father's medical certificate become useless like a waste paper.
Two months later, your father insisted on being discharged. You don't agree, but your father told you, the rest is rehabilitation training, even stay at home or another place also the same.
You send them home, usually it takes three hours to reach, but you drive for six hours.
Because you could not control yourself from crying.
The speed of parents getting older, much faster than you think.
You begin to understand, money is sometimes a part of filial piety. If you have enough money, you will be able to help your parents.
Part 6
If you have not experienced of buying a house, you do not know how important money is;
If you have not experienced of family illness, you will not know how essential money is;
If you do not gone through a life with 3000 salary a month, you will not know what is the purpose of earning money.
Similarly, why you have to work hard in order to make money when you are young?
Not to become rich, nor to enjoy.
But one day, you have the confidence to say that I can live a better life;
You also have the courage to tell to your family and your lover, my dear, do not be afraid, everything have me.
Wilde said:
"When I was young, I thought money was the most important. Nowadays, when I get older, I found that this sentence was not false at all."
Do not pretend not to love money when you are young, you should work harder.
We try hard to earn money, just want to have ability to do something to our loved, just want to say "no" to the world.
Why do you earn more money when you are young? This is the best answer I have ever heard.
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