前言
前两天，一位朋友XJK在朋友圈分享了他和二岁半儿子PH的一个故事。征得他的同意，现将故事转述如下。
Preface
朋友与儿子的故事
一天，朋友带儿子散步，经过一片树林时，儿子突然停住脚步，指着一棵树问道：“爸爸，这棵树怎么了？”
朋友顺着儿子指的方向望去，原来是一棵老树。树干已经枯萎，只剩下几片枯叶在风中摇曳。他便对儿子说：“这棵树生病了。”
听到回答后，儿子并没有罢休，而是一遍又一遍地追问：“爸爸，这棵树怎么了？”
朋友明显地感觉到儿子眼中充满了悲伤与疑惑。他一遍又一遍回答道：“它生病了”。
这样几个回合之后，儿子终于问了一个新的问题：“爸爸，那它为什么会生病？”
朋友答道：“它不好好吃饭，所以它生病了。”
朋友心里正为自己借机引导儿子好好吃饭而沾沾自喜，却被儿子的又一个问题难住了：“爸爸，它会死吗？”
朋友若有所思地回答道：“也许会，不过，如果它好好吃饭，也许很快就能好起来。”
第二天傍晚，他带着儿子路过一片挂满红色桨果的灌木丛时，儿子放下手中的玩具，摘了一大把桨果放到他的手上。儿子经常这样做，他也就没有放在心上。
然而，再次经过那棵枯树时，儿子从朋友手中接过桨果，走到树下，把桨果一个个塞到树根在地面裂开的地方，嘴里还自言自语道：“大树，你可得好好吃饭。”
A story between my friend and his son
One day, XJK took a walk with his son. As they passed through a woods, his son PH stopped in front of a tree, and asked: “Daddy, what's wrong with this tree?”
Father laid his eyes on the tree. It was an old tree whose trunks has withered with only a couple of yellow leaves dancing in the wind. Father answered: “The tree is sick.”
However, PH did not stop but kept asking him the same question over and over again.
Father felt that his son's eyes filled with sadness and doubt. Each time he gave the same answer.
Several rounds after, Son asked a new question: “Daddy, why is it sick?”
Father answered: “because it does not want to eat.”
While Father was proud of himself for taking this chance to teach his son to eat well, Son asked another question: “Daddy, will it die?” He answered: “Perhaps, but if it starts to eat, it will recover soon.”
The next day, they passed over a bush with lots of red cherries. Son picked up a handful of cherries and put them in Father's hands. Son used to do this a lot, so he did not take it seriously.
While they passed by that old tree again, Son took the cherries out of Father's hand and went to the tree. He placed the cherries into the opening of the tree's root and murmured: “Tree, you have to eat well.”
后记
这个故事最初打动我的是朋友儿子的纯真和善良。一个两岁半的孩子，竟然对一棵枯树产生了如此强烈的同情心。
当我回过头来，再看这个故事。我竟然对朋友儿子产生了崇拜感。首先，我佩服他小小年纪，就具有了比很多大人还要敏锐的观察力。其次，观察过后，能够准确地提出问题。更难能可贵的是，最终自己找出了解决问题的方案。这个孩子的这种观察力和行动力，得让多少大人汗颜啊。
我想，孩子的这些表现除了来自他的天赋，更主要的是父母后天的引导。从故事中爸爸的表现，我们对此就可见一斑。
最初，在孩子反复问着同样的问题时，爸爸并没有表现出任何地不耐烦。耐心在育儿中是父母非常重要的一个品质。试想一下，当孩子提出问题时，父母如果不耐烦，怎么能指望孩子可以静下心来去寻找答案呢？
随着事件的进展，这位爸爸表现出了较高的智慧。他能够巧妙地抓住时机，将引导孩子吃饭这件事顺其自然地提出来。相比耐心的培养，要想具备这种育儿能力，就要下一番工夫了。在我看来，育儿没有捷径，多听多看多总结吧。借用一句老话：处处留心皆学问。
祝福天下每个孩子都健康快乐成长！祝福每个家长也在育儿过程中，教学相长！
Epilogue
At first, what this story struck me most is PH's innocence and goodness. A two-and-a-half year old kid showed strong empathy to an old tree.
However, when I looked at this story again. I found myself have a sense of worship of this kid. For starters, I admire him to have such a sharp observation which is even better than many adults. Second, he is able to put forward questions accurately. What is more important, he figured out a way to solve this problem. Lots of adults will become ashamed of themselves in terms of observation and execution skills, compared to this kid.
I believe that the kid's deeds are closely related to his parents' education on him, apart from his own gift. We can learn a thing or two from his father's behaviors.
At the beginning, Father did not show any impatience when Son asked the same question over and over again. Patience is very important for being a parent. If parents are impatient when their kids ask questions, how can we expect the kid to seek for answers happily?
As the story went along, Father showed a high level of wisdom. He was able to seize the chance to teach his son the importance of eating. Compared to patience, this wisdom needs more efforts. From the way I see it, there is no shortcut regarding parenting. As the old saying goes: “learn from life wherever you can".
Best regards to all the kids in the world! Happy parenting to all the parents!
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