如果你找不到自己在婚姻中其实最在乎的是什么，来看看接下来的测试，婚姻出现裂缝，最应该就是找到两个人之间的误会点，及时的更正就能挽回你们的婚姻。
问题：你们有次因为某些原因产生了争吵，两个人都十分愤怒伤心，你独自一人坐在公园长凳上悲伤满满，这时走来一个快递员将箱子送到你的手中，你看了下寄件人显示的正是刚才惹你生气的爱人，原来对方为了哄你开心给你送来了礼物，那么你会觉得这个箱子里装的是什么呢？
A 你们两个人的亲密合影
B 一本讲两性关系的书
C 一封道歉信
D 一份发誓不再吵架的保证书
E 他的银行卡
分析：
选A的人：无论你们因为什么原因争吵，其实你最看重的是两个人之间是否依然相爱，你认为爱是这一切的基础，也是最重要的环节。只要对方依然表现出在乎你和爱你，你都愿意尝试去原谅他。
选B的人：其实你看重的更是两个人是否能够成长和彼此进步，并且这段亲密关系是不是能够带动两个人不断发展。因此你讨厌陷在同样的问题里纠缠不休甚至不喜欢伴侣不努力和进步，你认为如果出现问题就要通过学习、研究和提升自身才是你最看重的。
选C的人：你更看重的是对方是否宠爱你，愿意什么都让着你并且向你低头，你认为本身比吵架的原因重要，无论对错他都能放下身段来挽回你，现实中你有时候回无理取闹，但是你并不看重争吵的问题是否得到解决，而是想用来考验对方是否足够爱你
选D的人：你更看重的是你们在关系中的舒适度，你非常讨厌争吵甚至可以说有点害怕争吵，你总认为争吵会伤害到你们之间的关系，而现实中你也确实缺乏关于“争吵”的技能和方法，使得你面对争吵时总是感到恐惧和无措。
选E的人：你更看重的是你们之间客观实际的物质关系，你认为一个人可以把财产交托给你才是真的爱你，这段关系才能证明到足够强大和足够安全的。因此，只要对方交出身家，你就可以放心大胆的原谅他了。
If you can't find what you really care about in marriage, look at the next test. The most important thing is to find out the misunderstanding between two people. Timely correction can save your marriage.
Question: do you have time for some reason had a quarrel, two people are very sad anger, you sit alone on a bench in a park full of sadness, then came a courier box to your hand, you took a look at the sender is shown just to provoke you love each other in order to get the original you are happy to send you a gift, then you will find what is this box?
A the close photo of two of you
B a book on gender relations
C a letter of apology
D a pledge that vows to stop quarrelling
E his bank card
Analysis：
People who choose A: no matter what reason you quarrel, what you most value is whether two people still love each other. You think love is the foundation and the most important part of all this. As long as the other person still cares about you and loves you, you are willing to try to forgive him.
People who choose B: in fact, what you value is whether two people can grow and progress with each other, and whether this intimate relationship can drive two people to develop continuously. So you hate to be entangled in the same problems and even don't like your partners not to work hard or progress. You think that if you have problems, you need to learn, research and improve yourself, which is what you value most.
People who choose C: you pay more attention to whether the person is willing to love you, what makes you and bow to you, you think itself is more important than the cause of the quarrel, no matter right or wrong he could lay down to save you, in reality you sometimes go back to vexatious, but you don't quarrel question whether it has value but to solve, to test whether the person love you enough
People who choose D: you pay more attention to the relationship in your comfort, you can even say very hate quarrel a little afraid to quarrel, you always think that argument will hurt your relationship, but in reality you are lack of skills and methods about "quarrel", makes you always quarrel with feel the fear and helplessness.
The person who chooses E: what you value more is the objective and practical material relationship between you. If you think a person can entrust the property to you, he really loves you. This relationship can prove to be strong enough and safe enough. So, as long as the other person delivers the family, you can be relieved to forgive him boldly.