They also exist. Women who are in their thirties still have not slept with anyone or have done relatively recently. A subject that ends up becoming uncomfortable. Above all, considering that virginity is usually lost at 20 or before turning 20, according to a study by Durex worldwide. Today we speak with some of them, who tell us their reasons, fears and particularity at first hand; and they help us to throw down a deep-seated sexual taboo.
virgin at 30
Paloma S. (35 years old), late but with whom she wanted
"I lost my virginity at 34. The reasons? I suppose they are very varied." On the one hand, I think it influenced me that I had a very traditional education and, in adolescence and the first years of university, when all my friends lost it, I did not even consider such a thing, on the other hand, I'm sure it influenced me that I did not know anyone that interested me at that time either.
Then, crossed the barrier of 25, the issue of remaining a virgin became a great ball. I was ashamed to admit it and what the men with whom I related about the fact that I was a virgin at 27 or 31 might think. So I stayed away from relationships until, at 34, I fell in love with them. who is now my partner and it happened. It was not easy to "confess it", but he understood it and everything was comfortable and simple. "
Cristina B. (34 years old), she removed a "slab" from above
"I'm 34 years old and only three years ago I lost my virginity, at 31. In my case, they were not ideological or religious motives or anything like that." Since I was very young, I suffered different eating disorders and, simply, the idea of getting naked in front of a boy was not an option for me, even after overcoming the most acute phases of the disease, I kept feeling very insecure about my body and did not want to meet anyone until I was thirty or so, when I was changing of idea little by little.
In the end, I lost my virginity with a stranger, because what I had very clear is that I did not want to have to explain to a possible partner the reasons that had led me to that "situation". For me, honestly, it was like getting rid of an issue that overwhelmed me. I think virginity can be a slab when you keep holding it past the "normal" age to lose it. After that, it can be said that I have recovered what is the normal sexual life of a person of my age. "
Monica S. (29 years old), a very clinical first time
"I slept with a man for the first time six months ago, simply because the subject had never come before, I am not very into partying and I do not like alcohol, and nowadays it is very complicated to link if You spend the day in cafes and you go to sleep at 11 at night, but I met this man on the Internet and the magic happened, if you can call it that.
The truth is that the experience was quite uncomfortable, because I told him I was a virgin and he put himself in clinical plan explaining everything that happened. Let's see, I'm a virgin, but I've been to high school and I've studied biology, thank you. At least, I feel that I have removed the "tare" from above and that next time it will be more normal. "
Clara J. (31 years old), virginity is already a part of me
"I am 31 years old and it has not happened yet for me, I suffer from social anxiety and I have been going to the psychologist since I was 16 years old, when my shyness problems started to become very evident, I did not leave my circle of friends and stay with boys I have learned to relate with co-workers or friends, but intimacy is another universe for me.In my 20s it became a problem, it was very difficult to recognize that I was still a virgin. I kiss a boy in the mouth, how was I going to undress in front of him?
In the end I went on to acknowledge to myself that it was something that the pressure was only going to get worse, and that when it happened it would happen. He has not done it yet, and although he is already part of me and I'm not in a hurry, it's not something I'm telling from the rooftops. It has become something that I have to live with, like being dark and having wide hips. Would I like to change it? Yes, but I do not torture myself every morning either. "
