My peaceful co-existence with my co-worker

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There is one of my co-worker. We serve together in the same school, she come from different state and I also from different state. We argue a lot because she believes her state is better than other places, thereby always talking down on the state where we both serve. But I believe no place is better than the other, as long as the place is peaceful to live. Even if you are in a village and you believe you will make it there, you will. If the only thing you believe is "japa"( traveling out) before making it in life, that is how it will be. Because what we think about a place sometimes will make the place favor or go against us.

This is the message I always want to explain to her, but before I can finish one word, another word will cover it, resulting in an argument. It's not only about the town or city, but all her opinions are always different from mine. At times she claims I am talking from spiritual aspect 😂 well for this world to be normal you have to go through it spiritual , either through God or others means but through God is the only legit way I know.

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One day, I got home and sat down, and I started asking myself, "Why do this person and I always argue?" because I don't usually argue with people. Why is this person different?

And this was the answer that kept rushing to my mind. I decided to share it because it can help other people as well.

We all come from different places, environments, families, culture and backgrounds. The books and movies we watch are different. Even if we watch the same movies, our thoughts about them are always different. Our experiences and the information we hear are different. That's why our thinking is always different, and it's what we think that comes out of our mouths. And when two people with different thoughts come together to talk without an agreement, there will always be an argument, which can lead to a fight.

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That is what causes fights sometimes between people. The only way to avoid this is silence or agreement. You either agree or keep silent. Know when to keep silent or agree before it leads to an argument. But in my case, it's silence because I never agreed to that belief: "Every place on earth is a good place as long as it's peaceful to live in.

And also because our culture is different, there will always be different in what we believe in.

I also relate it to relationships (husband and wife). Can two walk together except they agree?
A wife or husband that can not agree or keep silent when argument occur will always fight
It's not everything you reply to.
At times you ignore and remain silent for peace to reign.

Another solution to avoid aurgument that can lead to fight is

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Understanding
Understand the person perspective even if you don't agree with it. By this you understand that our experience , background, environment are different.

Lastly , effective communication. Tell them the things you don't like , the things you don't want them to do to you.

By this we will learn to live peaceful among each other.