Sometimes some partners wil insist you must to tell them your past as if you owe them but the truth is, you don't owe your partner your past.
Your past doesn't belong to your partner but
to the almighty. A customer has no access to the
shipping history of a product nor how they brought the goods to the selling point. Such
information belongs to the shipper and not the
buyer.
If the shipper decides to reveal that to the
buyer or owner, it's only a privilege not a
right.
We are products, and God is our manufacturer
and shipper. Whoever we end up with as a
spouse or partner can be termed as the buyer
or owner. The product owes them no history.
God is the one working on you and He has the
right to know how far He has come with you.
(MEV) "For God is the One working in you,
both to will and to do His good pleasure". So
the question is, must you tell your spouse
about every event in your past? The answer is
No. It's just a privilege if you have to. They
were not in the past so why do they want to
live there? Why are they interested in your
past? Don't they like what they are seeing now?
Don't they appreciate what they have found?
If they don't, then they better leave in peace.
Some people will use your past against you,
whilst a few will appreciate how far God has
brought you. It is not every relationship that
ends up in marriage. Your partner just met you
a time will come to continue a journey God has
already started with you, there is no need for
them to know everything about your past
because they might not understand how far
God has brought you and where he's taking you to,let nobody force you to tell them
your past or history in the name of love or
marriage. Because they didn't belong to your
past, they should learn to ignore any negative
thing they hear about you in the past. Their
role is to partner God to help you become
what He has assigned you on earth.
They are not supposed to be the good friend
who knows all your stories but a best friend
who wants to create and live more memories
with you. They should be concerned about
your future, where you are going. This life is a
one way road where you can see the back but
you don't go and live there. There are some
chapters in everyone's life they prefer not to
talk about, chapters they try to forget,
chapters they don't want to read out loud. We
should learn to respect them for that.
We need to love what we got, for a bird in
hand is more than thousand in the bush. We
need to take the good with your bad past, that
is if you do have a bad past or your partner
happens to hear something bad elsewhere.
In conclusion "Night is almost over, and day
will soon appear. We must stop behaving as
people do in the dark and be ready to live in
the light" - Romans 13:12 (CEV).