Dating, is it good to date? An event to get to know each other? How to get to know him more closely? Lies, all that is only the mode of Satan to make you fall in the way that God forbids.
If you really choose dating to want to know how his personality is, why not just ta'arruf? anyway with ta'arruf you will not only know how his personality is, but you will know how his family is.
And remember, especially for those of you who have been dating for many years, your girlfriend is not necessarily your soul mate, then don't be lingering in an uncertain bond.
Choose ta'arruf only if there is good intentions for someone, because ta'arruf is more guaranteed to match. Why? because if you match, then khitbah immediately and then get married.
Then when it does not match, the decision not to continue is certain with the correct language and method, does not hurt and certainly will not feel that someone is at a disadvantage.
Unlike dating, if it is convenient, continue to guarantee, if it is uncomfortable, it can be left behind, even if it's legitimate to cheat, yet there is no halal bond right? So cheating and such is not sin.
Then lose or not such a relationship? It is a loss, because there is no definite responsibility in it.
Therefore, be smart to condition the heart, do not look for a mate through dating or something, because it really is obvious.
Do not endeavor through courtship, because such a way God has clearly forbidden. If you really want a good mate, then you must make sure to pick him up well.
Choose ta'arruf only, because it is only the way that God has offered to two people who hope to be matched.
Ta'arruf is also the best way to make sure he/she is your soul mate or not, because if you are already in someone else's proposal then of course you will not be fooled by the recognition "I am still alone".
Are there some people who are fooled by these words? Many, even disappointed you are very big if you finally know that you are just a place to play. Na'udzubillah
And remember, those who want to match are not your plans, not the length of courtship that you have built up, but Allah the Almighty match.
Then just choose the path that God has sent for you, really the way that God has provided must bring goodness, blessings, and certainly the peace of the hereafter.