I've seen so many articles out lately about "body-shaming" of women that are clearly overweight. It's not body shaming!
There's a clear difference between being curvy and just being fat/obese and unhealthy. Wanna know some of the main differences?
A truly curvy women will have no excess belly weight, her body will be thick BUT it'll also be toned, tight skinned, firm but slightly giggly in that sexy strong way.
A truly fat chick will pretty much be the complete opposite. Sorry ladies but excess skin, belly fat, thigh fat...you're fat.
And here's why I can say this..I. Am. Fat.
And I'm also going to say this. Being fat makes some not usually attractive to most males or even some females. Sorry ladies.
I in no way expect a man to be ok with my weight beyond fucking me. cause most men want o be seen with a MINIMUM of a decent looking woman. I know at my current weight and size I do not deserve that.
But, randomly, I find myself with a man. A wonderful Chinese-American man who accepts my weight. BUT he's also admitted it does make him less than willing to show me off on his social media because he's pulled some really hot women. And he himself is a hot man. Was I hurt by that? Yes. But not because it was mean. It's because if the roles were reversed, I'd be the same way. When you look you, you want your partner there with you.
Here's the thing, though. I'd bet so many people will get angry at this. Go ahead. It's your issue. Not mine. I accept reality. I accept how men think and feel on this subject. The men who are with fat girls usually have a fetish. The rest I CHEER for not following norms the rest can't avoid. Mine has to the point I can respect.
But none of this has gotten to me in the way you'd think. It's motivation to be the hot chick I wanna be and was before colitis and nearly dying a couple times ruined my body inside and out. Sad part is, I'm know I'll need upwards of $10K for skin removal at this point to be decent to myself. No clue if I'll ever get that kinda money though so...I'll always be fat even if I get fit with other ways.
Oh well...I hate being me.