You must have a memory of a meeting you may have had with a friend where the two of you angrily argued, after which you were left bitter and angry for days. Perhaps, you might also recall an argument you saw between two people, perhaps over a trivial issue, where the two of them raised voices in anger, after which they were left resenting one another.Sometimes we tire ourselves by winning people over by using various skills only to then alienate them from ourselves by behaving inappropriately. This is often caused by the lack of expertise in discussion and argumentation.The debater is like a rock-climber. It is important that he is careful where he places his hands and feet. You will find that a rock-climber will first look at the rock he wishes to hold on to.He examines it fully and thinks whether or not it would withstand his weight before grabbing hold of it. He does the same with the rock he wishes to place his foot upon. When he wants to move his foot away from one rock to another, he carefully examines the stone before lifting his foot, in case he makes a mistake and falls.
I would not make a discussion or debate long. Rather, I would keep it concise and precise. It is not admirable to become engaged in a discussion or an argument. Perhaps you may even agree with me that more than 90% of the arguments are not beneficial.
Try to avoid argumentation as much as possible. Do not be angry if someone criticises you and tries to argue with you. Relax as much as you can and do not upset yourself contemplating the intention of the one who criticises you, thinking, “What does he want? Why did he embarrass me in front of others?” Do not kill yourself with anxiety. Deal with the situation calmly.
Winds only blow away small rocks - and you are a mountain!
A THOUGHT...
Intelligence is not to win an argument, it is to avoid it.
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CONTENT : ENJOY YOURSELF By Dr Muhammad Abd Al Rahman Al Arifi