It’s my own fault, it takes two to make an argument, he accused. He loves me, he assured. It’s not his fault, I provoked him for it. It’s for my own good, he consoled. Wrong! You have not done something to provoke him, and even if you had violence is never ever a choice that a man should make.
Women need to stop making excuses for a man and his behavior, they need to stop trying to change themselves for a relationship, they need to be educated well to understand that they can not, can not save a relationship which is not meant to be. I often hear them making excuses and saying that “ hold on! it will get better”, oh no! he did it for the first time, he is not like this, he loves me.
My dear someone who loves you will never ever put you in a position to harm you or mistreat you. If it happened for the first time, trust me it will happen again and it’s not only about the bruises and scars but the pain, the pain of shattered self-respect, the pain of broken trust, the pain of hurt that you need to save yourself from.
It seems to me that this problem of violence comes from stress, pent up anger, frustration, and all kinds of negativity within human beings, they are so stressed and frustrated that they prefer to vent it out on someone else and often the soft target is someone close, someone, they know who loves them, someone they can go later and make an excuse for their actions. To me, such men are nothing but a bunch of losers and cowards who find excuses for their offense.
I know feeling Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful but never pursue a relationship because you are scared of being alone and never ever stay in one for the same reason. Learn to love yourself first and you won't be scared anymore.
You are not the first who has been assaulted, you are never alone, you will never be alone, seek help if need be but ladies take care of your own hearts.
You have got our back.
You know you may feel weak, but within you is the strength to leave, within you is the strength to overcome this violence, within you is the strength to fight against it.
You know there is no excuse,
so do I.
