Friday, 8 September 2017 at 7:30:58 PM
The day is cold, dark 15 degrees, and I feel as empty as a plastic bag in the wind.
I haven't written anything in a long time, possibly because I haven't felt like writing anything, and possibly because I have nothing to say. Sure enough my life is full of fun experiences, but I've reached a point where I get so sick of looking at the same scenery that all I want to do is get away from it all. All I can do is settle for a holiday, even if it's holiday in my own head.
It's time for something a little different to what I have been posting lately. Though I usually write poetry, or submit art, this time I'm going to put an idea to you all, you know, something to think about. Some would say that I talk too little, others would say that I talk too much. Anyway, happy reading...... Also a new illustration too !
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@StellarBelle
'Action Vs Inaction'
Communication has always been something I have struggled with, although I'm actually rather articulate and have no issue with getting my view across to someone else, the issue lies within how another would interpret what I have said, to which I view as an "Action Vs Inaction" setting.
What I'm going to address here in this post outlines the barriers I face when speaking with someone else, and the patterns that I have noticed in how someone communicates with/to me.
I speak with a lot of different people everyday, be it written or verbally, and have come to adapt myself to the format that the other person will speak, thereby delivering a message of clear and concise information. Now, in some instances, I may have a conversation with someone who is a poor communicator, be it as a result of broken English, a speech impairment, or in some cases plain laziness in utilising proper English, and this is easily able to be circumnavigated.
You may ask "What's the use in communicating in halves?" and it's actually very effective, though the outcome is dependant on the mind frame of the individual with whom you're speaking with.
What happens is, the ability of active listening and memory relay comes into play when two people show interest in one another, and some instances one person will offer to break the threshold first, in order for the connection to be made and navigated with more ease, hence creating a solid foundation for something more substantial to be made from and trust to be formed. And sometimes, there will be times where one or both parties involved experience a breakdown, because one or both lacks the comprehensive skills to participate in an active conversation.
For example, if you were to call someone to address a topic, but exemplify or completely extract the central facets of what you're addressing from conversation, you're telling the person that you're speaking with is that you're unsure of yourself and that you're lacking direction, thereby would like assistance in navigating the thought process into effective comprehension.
Furthermore, if implied by the informant that you as the recipient are supposed to know what the central topic of conversation is, regardless of any lacklustre conversational body that the informant is displaying within their expression, it implies that the recipient wants the person they're speaking with to provide input and control over their decisions, because, in addition to this verbal juncture, the individual struggles with centralised (person-to-person) conversive comprehension, and misunderstands the information given to them, as opposed to be in complete awareness of what's being said to them.
This is a constant block of which I have to simultaneously face and block when I meet with and speak with people. I feel that this is due to the present and persistent pressures on the individual in compartmentalising facets of yourself to be socially accommodating to another person, thus making the person you're speaking with uncomfortable.
Yet upon this flaw being exercised, you as the supposed perpetrator, aren't being accepting of your supposed excessive immoralities, on the pure foundations of the fact that these attributes dont,in fact,reside in your entity.So many people do this, yet advise me on communicating inefficiently.I find people very strange.
I'm often accused of transparent & feeble preliminaries, purely on the grounds of dishonesty, or misunderstanding, when in retrospect, it's through fault of the other person that I'm misunderstood, and that, when simply put, the other person doesn't wish to admit fault in that they are a bad communicator or have lost interest.
There are some ways that I have put into place whereby effective communication can occur, and this can be something as simple as reciprocating what was being asked of you, for example active listening and comprehension of what the other is saying and mirroring their actions. I have always thought that this certain is easy to convey to another, but apparently it is not.
Something about humans that leave me slightly perplexed, is that a person can & often will project attributes of care, but can also deter any connection of sustaining any form of empathy to the other's situation, does it not be of relevance to the other's situation, does it not be of relevance to their current circumstances - how is this a wrongful approach?
How many times have you fallen in love? How long does it take you to forget a face? How did you decide that someone was a lover, not a friend? How can you connect eyes with someone & still leave your soul unattainable? How can you close the air in one conversation, and leave it lingering in another? Why do people call the grass greener on the other side, when the mower is still getting rusty in the garage? Why do people say they are educated, but are inclined to offense on different opinions? People are so obtuse. When did something so basic become something so complex.
Perhaps I will never know why it is that people do what they do.
But at least now you know why it is that I do what I do :)
Thank you so much for taking the time to view my work today. Embrace all your dreams!
@StellarBelle
If I do anything incorrect it's because I am very new to Steemit. I'm here to make some friends and hopefully share some of my writing and artwork. Sometimes I have help with my blogs but I'll try to post on my own and perhaps mistakes will be made. So please try to help me understand and grow and be patient with me because I'm trying and want to connect with like-minded people and have a good time on Steemit.