Each of us begins his journey through the complex maze of life from childhood. From an age filled with fairy tales, dreams, fantasies ... we all live in a world of illusions and have no fear of reality, easily intertwining the present and the fictional. We are princesses and knights, brave heroes who fight the world's evil, and good fairies who award magical gifts to those who deserve it.
But at one point, the reality comes to us with all its evidence, and we understand that in this life so many unfair, and that we are almost nothing to decide. What about it? Give up your dreams, everything that is dear to your heart and hunt for the notorious "tit"?
Why can't we achieve our dream?
Life goes on day after day, and sooner or later, but we get used to what is happening around us. Yes, we accept the fact that we did not become an employee of the month, did not receive a red diploma, did not marry the best girl from the Institute stream... Somewhere in the depths of the soul, everyone continues to dream. No, not even to dream, and to dream. But if you ask any person who considers himself a loser, make one single, the most important desire, very few will be able to formulate it. And again this eternal question: why? The thing is that only a few are able to realize what they want in reality. To win a million? Why? Become a beauty? And for what purpose? Get a prestigious job or become a model? And where will this road lead? And so, fantasizing about something that seems attractive to us, we are not fully aware of the reality: we need it or not. The ability to formulate your own goals is a complex science. And it begins with honesty towards yourself. After all, many live, guided by a system of values, which in the present world can already be considered obsolete. People are not too sensitive, not wanting to give in, in any situation, especially thinking about yourself to be more viable. And not every dreamer is ready to reshape themselves in their image. In the end of the tale, upbringing and principles that they imposed on us, prevents us at least to formulate your goal.
What prevents us to achieve dreams, change our lives?
Start some new business is extremely difficult, and start to change your life on the vine — almost impossible. The leading positions in the list of excuses are the following:
Not enough money.
No time for... (studying, going to the gym, reading, getting cleaned up and so on).
It's too late to change anything. I'm not as/so... (greedy, cunning, aggressive, assertive, etc.).
If it doesn't work out, I'll lose faith in myself completely.
As you can see, there is no self-flagellation here: I am, they say, a person quite capable, but something for complete happiness is not enough for me. If I were a rich bastard and younger, I'd show you! In fact, there are always excuses, and even if you are bill gates, even Warren Buffett, though Catherine Deneuve, it is your life attitudes, false moral values and self-doubt prevent you from taking at least one step in the direction of achieving dreams.
Seek to dream. From "who lives well" to " what to do»
To make this the very first step, learn someone else's experience. Perhaps you will be amazed to learn that stories like "Cinderella" are quite rare: no one spares the poor submissive silent girl and does not give her all the pleasures of life on one platter. The opposite is true. So be prepared for what you will interfere, and will have to show not the best human qualities, at least in your understanding.
Being a little crazy?
Belief in success, at first glance, a hopeless case-a prerequisite. Without it not to reach even the most smallness. Yes, the smarter we are, the more often we prefer not to go uphill, but sometimes this approach turns out to be wrong. Forget about the fact that any result must have some reason. Just do. Theory without practice is a total zero, but practice without theory may well exist. Turn off the critical perception of reality, include a healthy pofigizm and-go!
Parapsychologists, advisers and coaches: do they help to achieve their dreams?
We are not only a set of certain psychophysical characteristics that nature and heredity have endowed us with. Being a civilized man, every one of us any "gifts" to stifle in the Bud: the aggressor will become an intelligent doctor, a libertine — a harmless ladies ' man, hysterical — the teacher of physical culture. So it is necessary to grind and sharpen, but not "turn the tide of the river", and only a few adjust their direction. And then we come to the aid of various assistants. For someone the entire life must have mystical background, someone more believes in friendship and love, Ah and someone give strictly scientific approach. The main thing — not to give up the dream, clearly to realize and do in direction even a small, slow turtle steps. But includes-every day.
I want to say only one thing: do not listen to those who say bad things about you or speak negatively...
Most often, these people could not achieve anything in their lives and wish the same to you.
Everyone is the master of his own destiny!
@Skrudge777