Welcome once more friends, to my creative corner, this time I bring you a topic of great family and social importance, for all those people who have had to deal in one way or another with a person dependent on some narcotic substance. Join me to see how to act in these cases.
Maintaining a relationship with an addict is not easy. The drink, the drug, the need to ingest drugs for depression, or to generate in your psyche a state of euphoria, become the center of your life, relegating your family, partner and friends, to the background, together with anything other than addiction.
As the person becomes closer to his addiction, the filial ties are loosening, generating a series of conflicting situations that end in vices of love - hate, approach - distance, repentance - guilt.
They lose interest in listening to the problems of their family, their partner, and in that kind of "addictive possession", is unable to contribute to find a solution to family conflicts.
But remember that he is "possessed", is a puppet driven by the threads of addiction, fraud, bribery and blackmail: he is sick.
So let's not wait for miracles, thinking that with a simple dialogue, pressing it with promises, that we know it will not comply, the problem will be solved. Not because he or she does not want to, but because he or she is stuck in a network they do not know how to get out of.
Family support, the key
In view of the fact that the family is the one who has sanity and lucidity in this situation, it is up to her to seek professional help to help them cope with this situation.
The family, is the most suitable to confront it with its reality. It is important not to fall into manipulations, stop overlapping them, out of pity or to get rid of them, when they incur the anxiety crisis, trying to convince their family to help them procure the product of their addiction at any cost, and bow to their requests.
Since the human being uses a thousand gadgets when he is determined to achieve something, people with an addiction, whatever, alcohol, drugs, hallucinogenic substances, etc. They look for the way to find the required object, justifying actions such as:
_ It's just a little bit more, I can not quit at once!
_ This time and already ...
_ You do not understand me, put yourself in my place
_ If I do not try a little, I will die ...
It is important to clarify the rules and establish the limits and not fall into sentimentality generated by feelings of guilt; experienced above all by the parents, who often paralyzes them, preventing them from acting firmly before the desperate cry of the affected.
That although it may not seem so, because of his behavior and way of expressing himself, he asks that they help him get out of that situation.
It is important that the family or the person who wants to provide support, is sure of their mission, that they understand that it is a complex situation that they must investigate and document well about the intervention process.
It is necessary to resort to a professional, skilled in the field, to guide and give clear indications. based on adequate therapeutic activities to treat the patient.
Do not tolerate the intolerable, wait patiently for the affected to reach the limit and decide to ask for help.
Nobody said it was easy, not impossible
Then it happens that light appears at the end of the tunnel, hope is renewed, and mechanisms and strategies emerge that design an attack plan against the enemy.
Planning that is the key
As if it were a project in which a series of steps should be taken, in which one leads to the next, in a coordinated manner, with the respective advice, and respecting the natural rhythm of the patient, without delays: slowly but surely. okay?
But beware, taking care not to fall into the network of manipulations and blackmail, typical of certain moments of crisis, which usually occur during the recovery process.
Show empathy
Above all, if it is a friend who offers help, listening, trying to understand and placing oneself in the other person's place, being compassionate and tolerant, without judging, they are very healing affective components that will help them grow on the whole.
Such actions, represent a relief to the pain of the addicted person, and a prize to the conscience of who helps him.
Family therapy
Many times it is not taken into account, that a problem of addiction, not only affects the patient in question, but affects all the members of the family, who receive the news very directly, without any preparation.
So it is very common to show symptoms of dysfunction when they receive the impact of knowing that one of its members consumes.
Therefore, the degree of involvement, understanding and intervention of the whole family is very important.
It is very important to go together with the rehabilitation clinics, to find out what the deficiencies and successes are, to know what is counted and what is needed to advance.
No less important is to go together to psychological therapies, in them they show how to relate, support each other, and act in situations when the patient has a crisis of abstinence.
On the other hand, the patient learns to place himself in the place of his loved ones, which motivates him to put his greatest effort in curing himself of the sickness that afflicts all.
Ok friends, I hope this post can help many families who suffer from an addiction, or have a sick relative with drugs
thanks for reading, I send you a kiss and a big hug