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At certain moments; a turn of an eye, a nod of a head, a smile, a handshake, or a rub on the back is all what is needed to build bridges of trust, to assure someone that you are there for him, to tell how self-confident someone is, or to convey a personal message. In other moments; a wave of a hand, a turn of an eye, an expression on a face can transfer attitudes that have the potential to cause wounds, leave scars, and severe the seemingly best of relationships.
It is fascinating how the slightest of body movements can tell about our inner worlds; what a simple gesture can expose about someone’s hidden feelings, how a change of the tone of voice alters the meaning of the associated words, and how others are unconsciously affected by someone’s posture. There is a whole underlying plane of communication where there are only meanings, emotions, attitudes, impressions and simple body movements.
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Nature in action:.
While spoken language conveys specific information and details, gestures convey the deeper meanings, the basic attitudes and the general information. Children develop the ability to make and read gestures as means of communication before they learn to speak; Gestures are easily detected by them. They are their first language through which they learn. A fleeting, unconscious gesture from their parents can tell them a lot. If you have a certain feeling about something or someone no matter how hard you are trying to hide that feeling, your fleeting and simple gestures will give you away, unconsciously teaching your kids to have the same feelings toward such person or situation. As adults such plane of communication is deeply imprinted in the subconscious, facilitating a deeper level of unconscious communications.
Have you ever resisted unjustified feeling about someone that eventually turned to be true? Have you ever been asked why you trust someone, and failed to provide an answer that doesn’t make you look like a fool? Have you ever felt skeptic about someone’s apparently persuasive argument for no rational reason? Have you ever had mixed feelings about someone’s benevolent action? Have your attitude towards someone ever shifted with no clear reason?
*In a recent study; the performance of theatre’s performers was found to be surprisingly influenced by how comfortable the seats are. The audience’s unsettled postures convey discomfort to those on stage. *
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Our gestures literally affect every aspect of our lives;
We usually get confused when someone’s gestures contradict his spoken words. No matter how seemingly consistent words are, gestures either complement or contradict them.
Someone’s unsettled eye or repetitive change of his posture as you speak means you should stop talking; he is not interested in what you have to say.
How tense or relaxed someone’s face tells about his emotions, the change in facial expression indicates a change in his emotional state.
Tone of voice can indicate how honest, loving, and caring we are or how threatening we might be
If you are a public speaker, it is essential to keep balanced Eye Contact during your speech in order to maintain audience engagement.
A simple touch with a beloved one at his not-so-good time can raise his spirits.
You can easily tell when someone has the same impression you have about something.
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Gestures can be consciously and unconsciously made and received. It gives us information that we later would consider as intuition. The fact that unconscious gestures are involuntary makes them clear indications of someone’s actual feelings. They don’t lie and are difficult to be faked, No one can elaborate a gesture that typically leaves the same impression the authentic one does.
Decisions:
On the other hand, when it comes to more practical issues or final decisions, gestures are better be used as signs at which you realize the need to probe further in order to validate the appearance of whatever issue at hand, and to find the hidden truths and the real intentions. Despite their overwhelming influence upon our impressions, it is unfair still to draw final judgments based upon them.
Relationships
Relationships are all about quality, due to the business of everyday, we have little time to express our feelings to those we care for. If it were not for the simplest of gestures we wouldn’t have been able to effectively communicate our emotions to them.
On the other side, there is no way gestures can’t expose our real emotions; Thankfully, it is almost impossible for someone to permanently fake his gestures; they would always fail him, affecting the quality of his relationships and eventually bringing it to ruins, that is why we better be honest with ourselves about what we feel, before embarking on a relationship.
