There are a lot of ways to deal with stress: you can compensate for moral damage with tons of sweets, go to computer games with your head or simply pretend that everything that is happening does not concern you. The trouble is that it will not solve the problem. If you really want to learn how to manage your excitement, read the article and apply its advice in practice.
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In the world there are two types of people: some know that they can influence the course of events, while others believe that everything around happens by itself. Participants in the first group understand that life and career are entirely in their own hands, and there is simply no other way to achieve the desired. Representatives of the second category behave exactly like Forrest Gump: they sit and wait for the bus to take them somewhere.
A psychologist at the University of Florida, Tim Judge, has shown that people who are self-confident and feel themselves to be in control of their lives ultimately achieve greater success in almost every case. Such research participants - let's call them "responsible" - not only performed their professional duties better and quickly mastered new tasks, but also had an annual income, 50-150% higher than that of their colleagues.
The study of Tim Judge revealed an interesting feature of responsible people: they do not lose their presence of spirit even in the most difficult circumstances. Yes, they also feel uneasy, but the question is how they use their excitement.
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Responsible people know that the future depends entirely on themselves, so anxiety only fuels their ardor. Despair gives way to drive, and thrill and fear are replaced by perseverance.
Whether the results of their long work were crushed to the nines or once again refused to work, they are in no hurry to raise the white flag. Life can throw up any surprises, but responsible people only double and triple their efforts.
How it works
The trick is how to overcome stress and keep it within reasonable limits to achieve maximum productivity.
We know perfectly well that constant experiences have serious consequences for our physical and mental health. So why is it so difficult for us to overcome the excitement and thereby improve our lives? Scientists from Yale have found the answer.
Strong stress reduces the amount of gray matter in the areas of the brain responsible for self-control. Lose self-control - and lose the ability to cope with anxiety.
In this state, you not only can not save yourself from getting into difficult situations, but you also create them yourself (for example, reacting too strongly to words or actions of other people). Reduction of self-control is especially dangerous when stress gets to physiological functions. It promotes the development of hypertension and diabetes, leads to depression, obesity, and also reduces cognitive abilities. It turns out a vicious circle, where the growing level of experience brings a person to complete exhaustion.
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If we do not know how to cope with excitement, we will never realize our potential. Each of us is nervous in difficult situations, but there are tried and tested ways to defeat the anxiety and fear of uncertainty - just five simple and incredibly effective steps. Before you read on, it is worthwhile to realize one thing: right now nothing has been determined, including your future. What will it be like? You decide.
No one can ever keep everything under control. Even those most responsible people from the study of Judge are sometimes left without work, and their business is going through hard times. The difference is that they are completely ready for change and are able to use what is happening to themselves for good. You too can learn this.
Periodically compile a list of important events that may occur in the near future. The goal here is not to predict all the changes that you will have to face. This exercise improves your ability to adequately meet the impending changes. Even if the events on the list never become a reality, the practice of preventing changes and preparing them early helps to believe that the future really is in your hands.
All of us, even in our youth, were firmly and firmly hammered into the head that life is unfair. This phrase is the voice of anxiety, despair and passive omission. Sometimes it's not possible to prevent unpleasant events, we are always free to choose how to respond to them.
In the list from the first paragraph, briefly write down all possible responses to each event. You will be surprised at the kind of arsenal of answers that will be typed up for seemingly uncontrollable circumstances.
This is the most difficult - you have to give up what you have long been accustomed to. Each of us has a certain scenario of behavior in this or that situation. So, if you want to manage your life on your own, you need to rewrite it.
Recall any difficulties that you have encountered. What prevented you from turning the existing situation to your advantage? Write down everything that happened, it will be a scenario of failure. Now imagine how worth it would be for a story, repeat this situation. This time you would not blunder, right? This is a scenario of responsible behavior, which should replace the previous failure. In any difficult situation, compare your thoughts at this time with negative and positive scenarios. This not only helps to choose the right way of action, but also changes the way of thinking, and after that, life.
Timely rejection of self-interest is an important step in the fight against stress and anxiety. The more often you focus on negative thoughts, the more you give them power over yourself.
Most of our negative experiences are just thoughts, not facts.
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Once you realize that you begin to listen to the pessimistic forecasts of your inner voice, immediately write down what you think. By muffling these sad arguments, even for a couple of minutes, you can more rationally and reasonably assess the degree of their truth.
In your reflections there are the words "never", "worst" and "someday"? Be sure, this is a fantasy, which to reality have not the slightest relation. If the thoughts in writing look quite plausible, let them be read by someone you trust. Let's see if he agrees with you or not.
When it seems to us that any situation will last forever or, conversely, never happen, it's only the pranks of the brain, which likes to make out of the molehill of an elephant and to exaggerate the frequency and significance of this or that event. The definition of a clear boundary between facts and conjectures will help break out of the vicious circle of anxiety and begin to move to new heights.
Responsible for the degree of efficiency of labor is superior to all others, because the ability to control emotions and remain calm even in conditions of severe stress is in direct connection with efficiency. 90% of the most effective specialists unite one important skill: they are able to control their emotions.
In general, anxiety is an absolutely necessary feeling. It's difficult to get down to business, until we start worrying about this a little, so the human brain is arranged. The peak of our working capacity comes with a moderate level of anxiety.
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