Today when I write this I think of my Dad. He was a man of a very high temperament. He would fume up in split of seconds. I would never know what would make him angry so was always scared to say anything in front of him. This resulted into me becoming very timid. When he was in good moods he seemed to be a very different person and then he would also joke that why am I so timid, but he least realized his behavior, and I would not have the guts to tell him.
I am sure he never did it purposely and it just happened to him, but he never realized the damage he was causing to the family which was not good and sadly I see the same trait with my elder sister, though she is much milder than my Dad. And then there are those rare times when I find myself slipping into the same but I consciously pull out. I am sure a lot of us are facing this problem.
Anger if not controlled can really cloud you up and take away all your capabilities. It does not only cause damage to you but your family as well. Controlling our Anger is very challenging but not something that cannot be worked upon. I don't think one should hesitate to confront this fact if they have an issue and seek help as it is a matter of your life.
There are times when we are so agitated with someone that we just want to blast out, I have done that many times and then later I realize that it was not the right behavior, so now I consciously choose not to hurry up in responding during such circumstances. I feel sometimes the Let Go behavior is the most apt thing to adapt.
What I do is if I want to blast on someone, I write it all down in a message but don't send it to the person. The next day when I check the same message I realize that half of it I do not want to say, and still I don't send it. and I keep reviewing that again and again and in sometime I realize that may be nothing of that message is required to be sent to the person.
Just diverting your mind to some calmer activities like Music, Meditation, A walk out in nature can help you control your anger.
Many people say "Oh I have a very bad temper" and I see they say it with a lot of pride, but I feel sorry for them cause they do not realize what harm they are bringing.
Thankfully I have been able to help my sister also control her temper with a lot of Crystal healing help.
The Mental and Physical damage you cause to yourself with your temper is one thing but you also end up hurting a lot of people, damaging relations, create a unhealthy environment around and ruin your family life if you cannot manage your temper. Just relax, breathe and do not be in a hurry to get back to the opposite person, when you will be calmer you will realize it was not required.
"Anger; does not solve anything,
It builds nothing,
but it can destroy everything"
Lawrence Douglas Wilder
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