We all see it, we feel it, we know it ... but nobody mentions it!
It is curious how in most families there are issues and aspects that are never discussed and always evaded. These matters are like "elephants". Imagine for a moment that you are in the living room of your home with your family and right in the center there is a huge elephant, each of the members realizes that it is there. They see it, they feel it, but nobody mentions their presence, it sounds crazy to you, is not it?
Similarly, it results in a large percentage of families, in which hard-to-communicate topics are overlooked, even though they are as notorious as an elephant in their room.
Madelaine and Jhon are a couple of husbands, who have three children, Carla, Samantha and Diego, all attend high school. A few years ago, the family lost their youngest son in a traffic accident. It was a devastating experience for everyone, especially for Madelaine and Jhon. The loss of her five-year-old son meant an injury so serious that little by little, because she did not know how to deal with the situation, she ended her marriage. They remained married and under the same roof, but only for their other children, they also slept in separate rooms every night.
After the incident, the family was still gathering for dinner and sharing, but although they were physically present, their hearts were elsewhere. It was not allowed to talk about what happened or mention the name of the child.
And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. John 8:31
I do not know if this story is similar to yours. For this family, it was very evident that something was wrong, the young people knew that their parents were not well, they knew that the family was estranged; Madelaine knew that some of her daughters were sexually active but the decision had been made to evade every situation ... those elephants remained hidden, although everyone saw them.
The end of this story is very sad, as the family distanced themselves further and each one took his way, just by allowing the elephants to take control of their home.
What is the elephant or the elephants that are in the middle of your family?
There is not something that hurts and deteriorates a family more than evading problems and keeping secrets. The enemy usually works in the occult, takes advantage of these situations to hold people captive, cause isolation and ruptures.
Probably as an authority in your home, you have been evading situations that require important conversations, and you have not had the courage to speak it and bring it to light. It may be your marriage, some loss, some disability of a child, some family secret, your financial situation, the sexual life of your children, etc. You need to arm yourself with courage and ask God to give you the ability to speak it and bring it to light, otherwise it will destroy your home without a doubt.
God wants you to have a united, wonderful family that will love and serve you until the end of your days, it is your responsibility to take care of it.