The assertiveness is the person ability that allows to express straight the proper feeling, disagreements, opinions and thoughts and defend our rights, in the opportune moment, from the form adapted without ,denying, nor hurting, not desconsideratión the feeling, opinions, thoughts and rights of the others.
The assertiveness is the way to achieve an operative family across the exercise of the binomial authority/affection.
In a family circle where the assertive style should reign, the adolescent will learn the assertive behavior of a natural way. The assertive style , it is that one in which the freedom space an increasing as the son grows, in that attention is paid to the normal behaviors of the children, to the exceptional ones to emphasize them, the small errors and ignored and are corrected and punish the biggest deviations, in that the norms are clear, in that they are asking him for responsibilities as coherence can be confronting them, with active listening, patience, in that the parents feel save oh themselves and are not afraid of the dialogue with the children not that these use an assertive style with them
COUPLES
In the couple an assertive communication is the key to a good relationship, a functioning even in the field of sexuality. In the couple an assertive communication is the key to a good relationship, a functioning even in the field of sexuality.
Many couples have serious problems because one or both of the members behave in accordance with aggressive or passive they provoke in the other inappropriate responses, giving rise to the consequent personal and emotional imbalance of one or both.
Communication is one of the basic pillars on which the couple relationship, and therefore, more clearly reflects the behavior assertive or not assertive. It is amazing to see how many couples lack the skills and strategies to communicate properly and how this lack of ability is interpreted many times as "lack of desire", lack of motivation," incomprehension, etc.
We repeat that traditional education has taught us to be less assertive (or aggressive), and, therefore, many people do not know how to express their feelings, anger, petitions, to another member of the couple with the supposedly has "so much" confidence. Thus, a typical error of the couples is to pretend that the other "guess" that we lack, we expect from him.
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONS
Human relationships are complex because at each meeting of two or more people are involved diversity of individual, cultural factors, context and situation, which are weaving together over time to configure them.
A fundamental basis for the construction of relationships is the communication that we establish with the people in every area of our life. In line with the type of communication that prevails, relationships can be characterized by bonds of love, solidarity, support, conflict, manipulation, confusion, closeness or distance, among others.
Assertive communication is a form of expression clear, direct and balanced that allows you to communicate ideas, desires, needs, and feelings in two ways, with confidence and respect for themselves and others; therefore, it is excellent for handling conflict and to create healthy relationships that will facilitate the mutual growth.
ADOLESCENT
In adolescents, the practice of assertiveness allows you to develop their self-esteem and achieve security in itself to be able to express their demands to their parents and to accept the consequences of their actions.
In adolescents, the practice of assertiveness allows you to develop their self-esteem and achieve security in itself to be able to express their demands to their parents and to accept the consequences of their actions.
Adolescence is a time of change and also many risks. It is necessary that the adolescents know how to express themselves adequately with their peers, not hurt but if by letting them know how to sit in front of a given situation.
It is very important that the teen knows that he is the master of its actions and also of the consequences that they bring with them, are often tempted to perform acts that go against their values but for this the assertiveness will help you to say no when they deem necessary.
Like all things this skill can be learned through a training and with daily practice we will give answers each time more assertive.
Assertive communication in adolescence is another of the personal protective factors that help young people strengthen their self-esteem and reduce risk behaviors. To stimulate and promote in the young assertiveness, helps you to say "NO" or "YES", I DON'T WANT TO, I am not willing, I DON'T LIKE IT."
THIRD AGE
Living with a person senior, involves, !if you care!, but does not override. The person who is in charge of an adult, you must have the ability to not only meet needs must also be open to different things like this:
- To recognize the capabilities of the person next to you. It is important that the older person is something more than the caregiver of grandchildren; you must stimulate their capabilities such as the kitchen, helping to organize a party, comment on how you want to live your life, to make you feel comfortable and respected.
2.- To encourage autonomy, not on protect, let him or work with him or her, for his life to be active, doing everything possible to develop their tastes
IMPORTANT: Allow your child to choose places for walks, bring friends home, get involved in groups, in order, to encourage and support.
- The elderly should be an ally, not a burden, since the emotional and physical health permits.
- To express affection and closeness. Many times the adult complains that the relatives who are close are cold and distant, try to get close to them, hug, kiss, listen, and be loving. A positive value to the relationship.
The people of the third age for all their lived experience are like an encyclopedia in knowledge, which allows you to communicate assertively. To her or the older adult we go when we need…already speaks with wisdom, patience, and calls for respect.
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