Recognize them, put them into words and allow the download steps to avoid suffering.
What a thrill! . I was moved to tears. How I long to mourn . I pulled a couple of tears . I felt a lump in my throat.
All these phrases are born from FEELING , to the effect that different situations present , memories of the past or future omens, produced in our interiority. It is an attempt to explain in words something that happens in our being and needs a download . Often this discharge occurs through tears and could venture to say that this is the most natural way . Product sometimes tears of joy and many other pain .
In other cases the discharge occurs through cries , movements, organic symptoms or disorders of some kind. It is expected that a person who has matured, can do this download , adding to the tears that may arise, putting into words the emotions .
Being on holiday with a five year old boy, in a moment of silence, I watched him thoughtfully. Suddenly he said "Do you know that sometimes my (is not textual error) excited and cry?". I answer "Oh, really? Tell me." "Yes, for example when the Magi brought my bike." This is a wonderful episode, showing full awareness of this child what was happening. You recognize this phenomenon as an emotion, mentions the discharge is in the form of crying and has clear corresponding to a moment of great joy. I emphasize that in addition to the male child was legitimate mourn. It is that still nobody had said "men do not cry" or "do not be a fag". He was learning one of the ways to manage emotion. Sorry, put into words, I realize the circumstances that produced this emotion, let out the download and me relief. The excitement has been processed. I can not stop saying what excited me observe this process in such a small child.
Here is another example. A ten year old just lost her first puppy was hit by a car. The next day takes a photo of the pet and shows it to her teacher, tells her loss, teacher narrows "I should've carefully." Child keeps your photo and also keeps your pain. There was no space so he could talk about what happened to him. the possibility of processing emotion was sealed in a healthy way. The next day the child missed school to present a fever.
Of these stories it shows that emotion can arise both joy and pain. But what happens when pain exceeds that contact the possibility of tolerance and / or can not be processed. Putting into words is stopped, you say we prevent what happens, we cover our mouth. And in the present case, we cover your mouth with food. anguish appears and try to deny it with something delicious. So we do not always eat by hunger but by a floating anxiety and calmed solve eating.
Handle emotions is a sequential learning that goes through different stages according as we grow. This process also involves cultural, belief systems, prejudices and myths. FEELING is not always legitimated or valued as an essential aspect of human beings. If we learn during our growth mourn it is something wrong, instead of considering tears as a balm for the soul, both as rain is beneficial for planting. If we teach that to forget the negative experiences, instead of taking them and transform them; as the land have to work to be the nurturing mother of seeds shelter. If we feed the idea that if we prioritize FEELING about thinking, we are weak people and maudlin. Then we'll harden as the earth hardens when not working.
If we walk a path to our well-being, it would be desirable to review the way we manage emotions, lose the fear of pain and we contact him to transform and learn to put into words what happens to us.
Mindfulness is a valuable tool for developing mindfulness and being present where needed. Happiness is a meeting between joy and pain, both are necessary to weave welfare. When we fail to go through the pain that all human beings is presented at some point in life, that pain will rot within us and becomes suffering. It's not forget, on the other hand it is good to remember, transform and grow.
"Memory is emotions as the land is to seed ." The more you prepare and work the land , grow better seeds that we plant . If we take our painful experiences bringing our memories to the present, and transform , emotions are fruits of our life. Says a popular saying that "Do not stay waiting for the storm to pass , learn to dance in the rain."