This is excellent.

I've been thinking about this for the past few years myself, not least with my own kids.

If it helps with your own thinking, I've started talking about emotions as if they're entirely separate from logic - not illogical, but alogical. They tell us something more about ourselves than the world around us.

To wit, when one of my kids throws a tantrum that screams 'the world is unfair,' I'll have much more luck discussing how he feels, and why he feels that way, rather than arguing that the world is more fair than he realizes. Even if I end the conversation with a gentle, 'grow up, son.'

Following.