Before getting a man to propose to you, there must be a relationship that should have been built up over time. It must begin with friendship first. It is not everyone that comes into your life that you should think about getting married; just make them your friends. Do all you can to spend time being friends first of all because without this, you wouldn’t know those who are supposed to cross the line to the next level.
There are many rules most ladies break as they journey in the levels of relationship with the opposite sex, mostly the ones they are interested in. This chapter contains the keys to unlock the sweetness of any relationship with the person you are in love with. The woman who will apply this principles, let me say, a woman at the age of fifty could possibly get married before an eighteen year old girl, if this principles are applied wisely in her relationship. There are few people who luckily get married breaking these rules and they could possibly experience a hard time in their marriage. They could get taken for granted. The man in question may become careless about your affairs as his wife and this will hurt you. After going through these rules, you will not just end up getting the attention of one man, but you will attract every man that comes your way, even those who never had the intention of getting serious with you could change their mind towards you. Once you have them on your finger tips, and you apply them when necessary, any man that shows interest in you will fall in love with you, for real.
There are principles for managing dating within the work place. Let’s take for instance, if you’re in your office, and you notice that there’s this particular colleague that shows some interest towards you, there are principles for sealing it into an engagement. There are things you don’t do to make a man, not only to come after you, but to stay. Many women pray endlessly for a life partner and give all they can to attract a man towards them. Many give their bodies to the man they love and they think sex will make him stay forever; NO DEAR, HE WONT!
Men are like babies; if for example you’re a nursing mother, and you give your child an excess of breast milk, the baby will spew out the milk and become uncomfortable. This is similar to men, if you feed him with an excess of what he want and desire and you’re not yet married to him, he will spew them out and become uncomfortable with you. You may be wondering what’s happening to your relationship, without knowing your breaking a rule. Knowledge reduces frustration in prayer. Knowledge reduces a lot of confusion that comes to your faith.
Now let’s take a look at these rules to take you the right direction in your relationship;
(1)You Have To Be Seen To Be Shown Favor
Even if you are the most beautiful girl in the world, and you have all you need for a life time, nothing will change until men see you. The problem of being alone without a partner is as a result of isolation. People isolate themselves from the public and from gatherings where they could possibly meet people and become friends with them, exchange contacts and get to know more about them. As a lady, who needs the company of an opposite sex, you need not shut the door behind you and remain in your room, or “comfort zone” if I should say, and expect the man of your dreams to locate you. Even a GPS device can’t do that for you. You need to get up, take your shower, put on a nice dress, do some light and simple make-up and wear good cologne. When you step out, you attract attention beginning even from your neighborhood.
There was a girl named Esther, an adorable damsel, beautiful to behold. She had no parent, she was an orphan. Her beauty was covered with the veil of rejection and poverty and she had no one to look up to. Thank God for Mordecai, a relation of hers, who came and took her as his own daughter. Now the late father of Esther was an uncle to Mordecai, and he had the fear of God within him. Mordecai trained Esther and brought her up in the way of the Hebrews.
They were utterly rejected by many nations and many from the various tribes of Israel had been carried away captive.
In those days, there was a king by name Ahasuerus, very rich and powerful. He reigned over one hundred and twenty-seven provinces, from India to Ethiopia. His queen, by name Vashti, always sat beside him. She was radiant in beauty and she was adored by everyone, but she disobeyed the king.
As a result of her disobedience, the king was raged and furious at her and relieved her of her duties as his queen. When these things had happened, and some days were gone, the wrath of the king had subsided, the king remembered his queen and her disobedience, and the judgment he had passed against her. The kings servants noticed his mood and said: “Let beautiful young virgins be sought for the king; and let the king appoint officers in all the provinces of his kingdom to bring them before you, and let beauty preparations be given them. Then let the young woman who pleases the king be queen instead of Vashti.” The king was pleased by the idea of his servants, and he sent a decree throughout all the provinces, according to what his servants had suggested to him.
Now Mordecai heard of the king’s decree and without delay, he got Esther ready for the beauty contest. Esther had the right to decide not to go for it, but she heeded to the wise instruction of her uncle and got ready for the contest. When she got to the place where the beautiful virgins were being taken care of before they presented themselves before the king, her beauty pleased the care taker in charge of the virgins, and she obtained his favor, so that he readily gave her a special attention. He brought to Esther seven choice maid servants directly from the king’s palace to specially take care of Esther and moved her and her maid servants to the best place in the house of the women.
Now let’s assume that Esther had remained indoors, she wouldn’t get all the favor she got. The kind would have chosen someone else. Thank God for her uncle who was alert to get the news of what was happening. This one principle you must apply, first, to be shown favor.
I believe you’ve heard or seen the Cinderella movies. She lived with a woman, I wouldn’t know if she was her step mother or aunt. The wicked woman in question had two daughters, who were mates with Cinderella, maltreated her in so many ways that she almost gave up everything, but she stood strong and believed on herself. There was a prince who was in search of a girl to be his princess. When her wicked aunt heard it, she made sure that Cinderella never showed up in the beauty contest. There was a shoe made of diamond, a pearl so beautiful to behold, that the prince would use to know his princess wherever she was, and anyone who had the exact fitting of the shoe will be his princess. After a great battle the wicked lady fought to hide Cinderella from wearing that shoe, but she failed. Cinderella succeeded and out of all the ladies in that kingdom, she was the only person the shoe fitted. She got married to the prince and they lived happily ever after.
As a lady you are, the worst thing that could happen to you is for someone or something to hide you from been seen. That is the strategy of the enemy of your destiny, he fights hard to keep you from being shown favor, but nothing can stop you. No one has the power to stop you; the one that has the power to decide to stop you is you.
If you are involved in a public service, always make sure to put on a bright smiling face and be nice to people you meet every day, not just the men alone, but also your fellow women. In fact, I would advise you get involved in activities that would make people see you. For example, in your church, there are services you could render that can make people see you, like the ushering and choir. Do it with joy and gladness of heart, coupled with a welcoming and accommodating gesture. You will be marveled at the outcome. It gives you the opportunity of being chased and desired.
Men don’t light a lamp and hide it under a table; it has to be put on the table for everyone to see. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. You’re that light that the best of men is yet to see. Leave your comfort zone and show yourself, the king needs to see you.
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